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Valentine's Day Surprising Proposals or NOT!
What's the most hilarious or heartwarming Valentine's Day tradition you've ever heard of? Join us in this episode of the Dysfunction Junkies podcast as Chrisy and Kerry share their quirky and endearing experiences surrounding the season of love.
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Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast. We may not have seen it all, but we've seen enough. And now here are your hosts, Chrisy and Kerry.
Kerry:Hello, hello, dysfunction Junkies. I'm Kerry
Chrisy:and I'm Chrissy
Kerry:Welcome to your safe space and, for those of you that might be just joining us, thank you for finding us and coming into our little safe space here. You know, Chrisy and I just like to talk about life and all the dysfunctions that we've lived through or currently living with, and just everything around us. So we hope that you enjoy our candid conversations and, and again, welcome.
Chrisy:Yes, I hear from a lot of people so far which has been very rewarding and wonderful that there's pretty much not anything that they can't relate to. Yeah, as far as what we discuss here. So, and yes, we probably we don't all experience the exact same thing, but there's something in what we experience that people get.
Kerry:Yes.
Chrisy:Or you realize you were dealing with it and maybe at that moment you didn't know you were dealing with it.
Kerry:Or maybe you're the lucky ones that are going like, holy crap, I'm so glad I didn't grow with that, or I'm not dealing with that and you have a normal life. So God bless you if you do yeah. I don't exactly know what the definition of normal is.
Chrisy:Because, as normal as you might think, you are the more normal you think you are, the less normal you really are.
Kerry:Oh, that's so true. That's so true. Oh my, so we're here in February. It's, you know, gloomy as always here in Northeast Ohio, but the one ray of sunshine this weekend is Valentine's Day.
Chrisy:Valentine's Day, the day for lovers, I guess. Wear your red and your hearts and give cards.
Kerry:I guess, yes, get the flowers. Have you ever been that kind of person that wears the clothes to match the theme of the season, like, will you wear red on valentine's day and green on saint patrick's day? Or?
Chrisy:red on valentine's day yes, yes okay I have the heart leggings oh my god, you're really yeah and probably heart earrings yeah, because I mean it's mean, it's to me pretty Now when we get into St Patrick's Day in a month from now. But just to give you a little preview, I am not Irish and we went to a Catholic Irish high school.
Kerry:Yes, we did.
Chrisy:So we were told that we were Irish, even if we weren't Exactly. Yes, which I don't know. That that's a nice thing to say. My husband is half Irish, okay, so the Irish people are wonderful. Yes, I work for a lovely Irish family, okay, and I love Cillian Murphy.
Kerry:Who is Irish. That was a good accent there. You got that down. He's beautiful, so are you saying then, yes, you'll wear green on saint patrick's day?
Chrisy:I don't, though, because I don't feel it's my right to, because I'm not, and I know that they're like, but on saint patrick's day, everybody is irish, my god, you do that so good no, I don't want to be insulting I well, no, actually I think I do have one.
Chrisy:I did break down and I did finally buy because I was wearing our high school. I had some shirts, yeah, that I bought actually, I think when my niece was going to the high school she was selling some shirts for softball or something. So I do have like a baseball shirt that has, uh, you know, our logo and stuff on it.
Chrisy:Yeah, and I would wear that. And I did break down and just finally buy a shirt and, because my kids have irish ancestry, now they have, uh, irish shirts but, and I will dress them up for valentine's day too. So, okay, yeah, so I do, I wear, I wear the themes, I guess.
Kerry:Yes, I do I don't ever think about it. And then I get to work and everyone's wearing red and I'm like, oh yeah, I should have done that, or they'll be on on the same pageant everyone's wearing green. Oh yeah, on Halloween, you know they'll come in dressed in a costume. I'll be like, oh, I didn't think about that. Like I missed. I missed the boat and I haven't learned.
Chrisy:So yeah, that's all right yeah, it's all right because it can be pressure, and then when you forget to do it and you wanted to this year I had a lot going on so I forgot to wear some of my christmas leggings and then I have to rotate them and put them back down to the bottom of the pile of leggings because now they're out of season.
Kerry:Now they're out of season 12 months away from that yeah so what I don't understand, though, is with this whole valentine's day is the sweetest day, and valentine's day is it like this, the thing they're just trying to do it in two different months, like and with sweetest day. I don't think it's really nationally recognized. I think that's more of a Northeast Ohio thing, like I remember when we were in high school, sweetest day was a big thing, like you'd get to buy a carnation and you'd get a carnation. Well, I never got any carnations, but in any case, you could buy her something.
Chrisy:Your friend didn't go to school with us.
Kerry:I know, but other people were dating people that didn't go to school and they made sure they found a way to buy it. They'd have someone, like he didn't come to you and say, hey, chrissy, could you buy this for Carrie so she gets a carnation? No, I just got nothing.
Chrisy:Oh yeah, she could, yeah you could have done.
Kerry:Yeah Well, maybe that's why we're not together, but yeah, so, like Sweetest Day, I'm always like it always surprises me, because I'm like what is this? And then we have Valentine's Day.
Chrisy:Valentine's Day is more legit. This is my opinion. Yes, please share, because it's been around for a while and I guess you put the word saint in front of it. Oh, there you go.
Kerry:Oh my god now patrick state saint.
Chrisy:Oh yeah, there's a theme there yeah, now as far as who now this is gonna sound, I get remember carrie good, chrissy bad. Um, I don't know. Was saint valentine a person, and did we have to go to mass for saint valentine? I don't think that's I don't.
Kerry:It was not a day of obligation, and what was?
Chrisy:the fat cherub about With a weapon. Who gave the fat cherub a weapon? And they have the ability to fly, they could. That just seems destructive.
Kerry:I don't think that had to do with the religious end of St Valentine. I think that became more of the hallmark part of the Valentine.
Chrisy:Oh, like, oh, okay, I don't know. Oh my gosh, it's terrifying. Now, Now, sweetest day, I'm with you. I remember it kind of coming into its own when we were in high school, yeah, but when we were in grade school, I don't remember us having any acknowledgement of that, so that must be. We'd have to do some research on that. When?
Kerry:Right, it's in October sometime.
Chrisy:It is in October. Like the 20th or whatever, usually like the second weekend. Dj Nick.
Kerry:Google that.
Chrisy:Yeah.
Kerry:When did St or Sweetest Day become a thing? We just wondered.
Chrisy:But no Valentine's Day. Yeah, it's been around a long time. You guys are quick. I was looking up St Valentine.
Kerry:No, no, we're not, we moved on, we moved.
Chrisy:But so yeah, they're different times of the year. Some people will probably tell you that both are Hallmark holidays as you said, to help that industry out, but isn't everything that we celebrate in general some sort of bigger monster trying to keep the money out there circulating, which isn't a bad thing? I love being a consumer.
Kerry:DJ Nick, what'd you find? It is a Northeast.
Chrisy:Ohio thing Carrie.
Kerry:I was like how did you come up with that? Because when I lived out west, people didn't know what it was. You never saw it. So please share.
Chrisy:According to Wikipedia, the first Sweetest Day was observed in October 1921 in cleveland, ohio and it does attribute sweetest day to a great lakes region thing oh, so that's, there so you it. Maybe it is like a northeast it is a northeast ohio thing. Yeah, okay so do they not have greeting cards for it?
Kerry:no, that's what I'm saying is somehow, um, when I was living out west I don't even know how it came up, but I was probably talking to somebody at home and they were saying, what are you doing for sweetest day? And I was like whoa, I forgot about that. And then like, just through conversation, yeah, there was no sweetest day cards. There was no, yeah, so it was not a thing out there. So, thank you, dj nick, that was good.
Chrisy:So it's a distraction from, in my opinion, the best holiday Halloween. You got to focus on that. I mean, it's just a couple of weeks Now. You're trying to take me out of the Halloween mode for this.
Kerry:But you know why. You know it's not a legitimate holiday. It's because there's no movie this sweetest day. That almost wasn't, oh my God.
Chrisy:There's not. I'm going to start working on that script.
Kerry:Is there a Valentine's Day movie that we need, or a cartoon?
Chrisy:Well, Charlie Brown had a Valentine's show, I think, yeah, no, I don't think there's really I mean.
Kerry:I'm sure there's cartoons that have that as a theme, but nothing that's made an impact A major release. Right, okay, yeah, wow, that as a theme, but not but nothing that's made a major release. Right, yeah so, but yeah, wow. So did you have to do all those little treat bags and stuff like did your school, because we both went?
Chrisy:you went to catholic grade school right, yeah, so did I for the most part. Yeah, I left for a few years.
Kerry:Right, I did back in catholic, so you know when we were growing. I don't know about your school, but in my catholic grade school it was one room like all your class, all day, one teacher, one room. Like we didn't switch like you do in high school and stuff.
Kerry:I didn't experience that until I went to high school. So eight years, one classroom. So you know, basically you're in the room with the same kids for eight years. You know the same 20 kids we went to school with. So how did you feel about the whole treat bag and Valentine's Day?
Chrisy:situation when we were young, we did have a Valentine's party.
Kerry:Okay, in grade school.
Chrisy:And our situation was similar to yours as far as how the grade school operated. I do remember the grade school I went to had two of every grade.
Kerry:Oh, so there was two. You were a bigger school.
Chrisy:Well, it's hard for me to imagine, because your goal was on outside of the city and, yeah, mine was inside. So I guess, yeah, I'm probably at the time when I was there.
Kerry:Yeah population was still fairly high, so yeah, we only had one classroom of each grade.
Chrisy:Yeah, so some years you would have, it would change up as far as who the kids were in your class, because some of them might have been in the other class Okay, gotcha. And we didn't generally change classes for anything. You didn't go for lunch in a. We didn't have a cafeteria.
Kerry:Right, you ate in your classroom.
Chrisy:Now for science, for specific types of subjects, sometimes you did have to change because the other grade teacher may have been the one in charge of teaching science or math.
Kerry:But did the teachers switch rooms, or did the class switch rooms, or did they just swap teachers?
Chrisy:No, the class, so you would go over to that classroom. You'd go over to that classroom. And some kids might come over to your classroom to change for that subject oh, okay. But Valentine's Day definitely was a thing. But treat bags, yeah, I only remember experiencing when I've had kids, when we, I think I think we had a party and I think maybe some parents would bring a treat for everybody to share right and you would definitely exchange, but we had to make those boxes so that you could get your little valentine, you know.
Kerry:And back then I mean I don't even know, because I it's been a while since I've been had little kids like the little cheap little valentine's card, like a postcard kind of little thing and stuff. But we had to make a box so that we would all walk around the room and put, you know, had to distribute it, and I just remember like it wasn't required that you had to give one to every kid in the room, no, so my box always only had like four no, get out of here, I'm not kidding you, I was not popular.
Kerry:I was the kind of the geeky kid that was well corner no I doubt that.
Chrisy:But if they weren't giving you were probably just as nice. I was given valentine's because they were afraid I'd be sitting there going hey Joe, you better cough up. I don't see your valentine.
Kerry:They had to pay their tithe to you to keep you off their radar. Just give her a card.
Chrisy:We don't want to have the wrath of that happening, but, no, I don't remember being required and I don't want to be a lousy individual and say that by today's standards, where I they do, and I've experienced this because I had kids who went through all of this yeah you do get.
Chrisy:Generally, the teacher will send home a list of all the students yeah, so that you have to make sure that you know, whatever you're preparing, but we and I really think our like little valentine's cards that we had back in the late 70s early 80s, just like everything else, they were way cooler yeah I mean not that the ones just now.
Chrisy:They're so spread thin because you can get bluey valentine's and you know, uh, all these other cartoons that are big, when my kids were watching you know Caillou oh God, no, sorry I brought up Caillou, but yeah, all the things that were popular then, which is lovely because you can sort of choose. To me it's like overwhelming. Yeah, because I would want to try and find the valentine that suited my child and each one of them had a different personality, of course as they all do and you're like which one does he want, which one does she want?
Chrisy:right the other thing I don't remember now did you say you do remember creating a valentine box for people to distribute?
Kerry:yeah, we had. Yeah, we had to. That was like part of our assignment that we had to make sure we brought a little box in and we would set the box on our desk and then we would all line up and we would just go in a circle up and down the rows to distribute into the boxes and people knew that, oh, that seat there is where Carrie sits, so that's Carrie's box, you know, so that we would all walk around the room at the same time so you wouldn't see who put the Valent's in your box or who wasn't putting them in.
Chrisy:So they were trying to do a distraction. Yeah, in case you didn't give somebody.
Kerry:I didn't, so I wouldn't know, you know, until unless they wrote until the end. Then we didn't open those boxes until we got home. Right, like the teachers were smart about that because they didn't want the crying kid in the room. Oh my god, yeah, yeah, yeah. So they were like okay, we distributed them, and now when you go home tonight you can read them, and then I'd open up my little pathetic box of like four when I had 27 kids in my classroom, so that would be 26 I'm.
Kerry:Do you think I'm making this shit up? I'm not. I'm not lying to you. I'm telling you. This is how it was Well.
Chrisy:I know you were. Your personality was way more appealing than mine and, I must, I was kidding before about the fact that they just gave them to me so they didn't have to deal with like a horrible person, but now I think that is the truth. That's the truth Because I do remember having them, and I think it was out of fear.
Kerry:Yeah fear.
Chrisy:Yeah, it was not out of admiration.
Kerry:Valentine's day the holiday of providing people things with out of fear, but the box they'd love to hate you.
Chrisy:That's the story of my life so I don't remember creating the box. If we did, it might have been an in-school project that you kind of just did okay but for some reason I feel like they just threw them in your debt. Remember we had the desk where the top picked up oh, we didn't have that our desk our desk had the under the seat.
Kerry:Yeah, we didn't have those.
Chrisy:We had the ones where yeah, I know what you mean, yeah, you slam your fingers in it and it was fun or slam someone else's fingers.
Kerry:I'm sure you did that. Oh sure, hey, come here where's my valentine?
Chrisy:you see what's going to happen to you. So, but when I had my kids, and now and I know parents listening to this you get it. These Valentine's boxes are like competition. Yeah, I mean, they have them that look like robots and castles and Harry Potter's you know probably made them on some 3D image maker thing too.
Kerry:Yeah, they're elaborate.
Chrisy:I do remember making one for my daughter when she was real little and she used it throughout her preschool and kindergarten year and I was so proud of it because I felt it was so unique. Took a shoe box and then I went into the craft store and I bought a bunch of swatches of different like Valentine colored fabrics, pinks and reds and white. I basically cut them into pat like squares uh-huh and then glued them onto the spots.
Chrisy:It looked like a beautiful, like little patchwork like yeah, and I, I put her name on it and there's a hole for you still have that box. I of course.
Kerry:I was gonna say is it over there somewhere?
Chrisy:no, it's actually in a better place. Our studio is is in a beautiful place, but you have to go through a minefield of toys because Chrissy doesn't get rid of anything. Soon soon, if anybody else is interested.
Kerry:We'll talk about that in the future. Maybe we can work a deal.
Chrisy:But yeah, and then I know for my two younger ones they actually came out with at some of the bigger stores they would have a blank canvas for you to work with. Yeah, so they had these fantastic things that I just thought were lovely. It actually was like cardboard but it looked like a mailbox, and then it was up to you to basically buy all the lovely little thingamajigs like stickers and other things you could paste on it and create these beautiful little mailboxes for them to exchange a valentine that's cute.
Chrisy:And then the treat bag. I sat many hours up on my bed putting together these treat bags for my kids the next day tj nicks rolling his eyes, shaking me because I'm a little obsessive about stuff. I had to make sure everything was equal same amount of tootsie rolls, same amount of a sucker, same amount of a sticker.
Kerry:So you were kind of going back to like when we talked about our parents would give us all the same gift, you know, like it's kind of a remembrance of that we had all be equal, had all be the same, didn't matter that we were 10, 12 years difference in age. Yeah, so here you are. All the candy has to be equal.
Chrisy:All age. But yeah, right, so here you are. All the candy has be equal. All this all the same, my daughter went to her preschool and kindergarten was not I guess it's private, it was it actually had the same name as our high school. Oh really, yeah, out there in in uh, competitive land and um and so to be involved at any level. Christmas, spring, spring, whatever they had going on there. Valentine's Day it was serious. You had to sign up if you wanted to work any of the parties there and then you had to tell them OK, I would prefer this is my number one choice, second choice, and then they would decide it was like a lottery. Then they decide who would score the parties, you know you might not get your first?
Chrisy:choice depending on the amount of people. And it was very structured and very serious. I mean because you would have the treat bags. You would have they would bring in food so you distribute like food for the kids, and then you would have a craft. You had to create a craft for everybody. Oh, my god to do. Isn't this the teacher's job? To do all this? Why?
Kerry:are they having the parents do this?
Chrisy:no, and we paid tuition to go to this place. Oh my god. And the teacher. They would try to make it sound like the teacher deserved the day off, but she just sat there and watched like she wouldn't even help. She, he, whoever it was, they would just sit, which, now that you bring that up, I never thought about. Now I'm like really agitated. Now you're mad. I can see your face. I am like agitated. Because I do remember them telling me well, the teachers get a break and they want the parents to do everything.
Kerry:Why, why, do I have?
Chrisy:to do everything. Didn't I pay my tuition this month? Right, yeah, it was your the craft and then the game. You have to do a game, you have to come up with a game, oh my God, to entertain. I remember there was one kid in my daughter's house, a little boy, and he was like he was trying to do the craft. One of the crafts I created for one of the Valentine's parties I was lucky enough to participate in Was I bought a bunch of like these hearts and I had them all. And then I had to like create all these like bags with glue, sticks and stickers and glitter and everything. I had them sit there and make their own valentines, like for their mom and dad or sisters and brothers or whoever they want, grandparents, whatever.
Chrisy:That was really fun. But then somebody brought in some game where it usually required, like marshmallows or some yeah sort of thing, where you had to keep the marshmallows stacked up, and this one little boy was sitting there and he just looked so unhappy and I said what's the matter, do you need help with anything? And he goes. It was the most profound thing I ever heard a child this age say. He's like I really just don't understand why I have to do this.
Kerry:You're like oh, it's my spirit child. It was my spirit child.
Chrisy:I said oh my God child. They said oh my god, and I had no answer for him. I sat there and I looked at him and I said honey, just do whatever if you don't, don't worry about it, the day's almost over.
Chrisy:I just what do I say? The kid nailed it. He was the city. I mean he looked completely drained and he had to sit there and stag marshmallows one on top of another and try and stick a pretzel rod through it, or something. I mean it was like, and I just was like, oh my gosh, the poor he's like, does he need help? I really didn't.
Chrisy:I don't really understand and it was like a low voice, he kind of muttered it like he was sitting there plotting something at the same time, like he was going to jam a pretzel through somebody's head and wow, yeah. So god, love you parents. So and I, I bought the ticket, I drank the kool-aid I had to do it too I made the treat bags, made the valentine's boxes.
Kerry:I don't remember our parents ever well, at least in my school, the parents were not involved. Like there was, was no like you know class. I don't even remember them coming to the party at the school. No, like the only time I ever remember, ever my parents coming to school first through eighth grade was like if we had a production of something you know, like if we did a Christmas play or something.
Kerry:But, like daily in the classroom, there was no teacher's aid, like it was just us 27, 28 kids and the teacher. There was no other assistant, there was no parent helper, there was no, none of that. And if we had a little like Valentine's Day party, there was no parent there, there was no, nothing else there and I got dropped off by a bus. I got picked up by a bus. I wasn't a walker and a car rider, like you know. I didn't live close enough where I, you know, wasn't bus, so my parents weren't part of my grade school experience, except for holidays.
Chrisy:Yeah, yeah, I mean I think, well, probably not my dad really much at all.
Chrisy:Oh yeah, my dad, my father the way he worked and stuff, to not to make excuses for it. I think he did. I think they had an art show and I was. I did get, I did an art project that was featured. I was lucky enough to make something pretty cool and I think he did come to that. But my mom would come for a couple of things, but no, not much. But today, which actually is probably a good thing they really require first of all, everybody understands this.
Kerry:who has kids in school? You have to be buzzed in. Yes, right, which that was?
Chrisy:never the case. I mean, anybody could be in a building and you just didn't question it. I remember for my daughter's preschool I had to go to a specific class that required you to get background check and fingerprinted. The sheriffs the county sheriffs were there to conduct this and you had to sit through a movie, which was awful, and I felt like if you're an adult and you're a parent, you have kids. This is pretty basic stuff. It was about like, basically recognize. I don't know why working a party had anything to do with recognizing a child who maybe was suffering from some sort of abuse, which is a very serious topic and I feel like so this is like a child protection covenant.
Chrisy:It must have been yeah, and that's why.
Kerry:So, if they had, parents or anybody coming in. They had to go through this to make sure they weren't letting somebody. I get it. Yeah, yeah, but it is a modern time thing. It's not what we grew up with?
Chrisy:No, not at all.
Kerry:Oh, I was just going to say so, kind of going back to our Valentine's Day. What is your best memory of Valentine's? Did you get any good and any? What's your favorite Valentine's Day memory? Do you have any? Does any stick out? Past, present, future.
Chrisy:With my husband, I guess you know, celebrating that day, going out to eat or something like that is nice. No, I mean no, just no no, I really want to. I'm trying to grab something.
Kerry:I have one memory. So when my husband and I were dating and I knew we were going to get engaged and I knew he was thinking about it, you know, and we had this trip planned and it happened to have been I'm pretty dang sure it was on Valentine's weekend or somewhere real close to that. So we were living out in Las Vegas and we would often go to California to spend the weekend, go to a dog show, do something. Whatever we were doing, I thought for sure he was going to propose to me that weekend and he kind of like kept hinting about things, like little things. So then he picked out this restaurant and when we were at the restaurant he ordered, like you know, the steak and lobster, like everything he kept doing. And so I'm like waiting for it and waiting for it, and all weekend it wasn't happening. We went for a nice, beautiful, moonlight walk on the beach in California and I thought, oh, here it is Nothing.
Kerry:Go to the restaurant Beautiful dinner, dessert, everything, nothing. I mean, it was just left and right. I was getting more pissed off that whole weekend, so mad. And I know he says he, this is not that, he did not plan this. I'm like, I know you planned this, I knew, you knew that, I thought this was happening and you kept like getting me to oh, it's gonna happen, no, this is gonna no. So, um, yeah, so he didn't and no, we can happen. Shortly thereafter I think it was a month later oh, and it was. I was, I will say I was surprised whenever it did happen.
Chrisy:But yeah, I'll never forget that weekend because he tried to like take it, like make you think oh yeah, I was planning that the whole time.
Kerry:I wanted to make you feel.
Chrisy:No, he's, I would have lied.
Kerry:I said oh, I know that's what he was. I knew he knew and I knew he thought that and he was playing it up. But he's like, no, I didn't ended up. But he's like, no, I didn't. No, I wasn't. No, I wasn't. I'm like. I'm like, no, I don't know you are, you were doing it. So, but that's probably my most memorable one, only because I really thought we were going to get engaged that weekend well, quickly, since we're in the romantic mood, for, yeah, how did he finally propose?
Kerry:so how he finally proposed is we again. We were living out in las vegas and we came back to oh, and I think it was like around you know, I think it was like Easter weekend or something. So it was probably late March, early April. I just remember there was still snow on the ground and he was asking my parents for permission. He was old school about. That was really sweet and what's really funny is he went and asked my dad. He got all the nerve up to ask my dad and my dad said you're gonna have to go talk to Bonnie.
Kerry:And so he had to go ask my mom Because my dad was like, well, if Bonnie says it's okay, he had to get the nerve up to ask my mom that when I was in high school my dad and I built a barn at the property that I grew up on. That was always a special place. That property in that house meant a lot to me up until a few years ago and we built that barn. It was always one of the good memories I had of my dad. That weekend he asked my parents and then he you know he needs to know I'd like to go look at the barn and stuff. So he kept trying to get me to go out but it was like freaking snowy and cold. I don't want to go out there. But he was being you, it was, it was sweet, it was very romantic in its own little way because it meant something to me and to him and stuff. So yeah, that's wonderful.
Chrisy:What about your story. Well, you know, carrie, that is very romantic, but I have you.
Kerry:I'm sure you do Wait till you hear mine.
Chrisy:Because I always bring out romance and happiness with everybody I'm involved with.
Kerry:I can't wait. I'm on pins and needles.
Chrisy:So my husband and I knew each other shortly after we graduated from high school and then we got reacquainted when we were in college and so we were young dating and we go to Taco Bell a lot, uh-huh and other places, and I usually was driving because I had my own ride.
Kerry:Yes.
Chrisy:He had to borrow his mom's when he needed one. So I generally would just drive. And I remember we were driving to go get some lunch from Taco Bell Typical college kids, you know and I turned the corner. I can tell you the streets and everything but I'm well I mean, uh, new road to raccoon, oh, that talk about over there that one that used to be over there in austin town that was because it's the closest one to.
Kerry:Yeah, it was close to you and I turned the bend.
Chrisy:I'm sitting here trying to think what am I gonna order? Is it gonna be tacos? Is it gonna be talk? I used to like to get their taco salads. I don't have those anymore.
Kerry:Yeah.
Chrisy:And he just all of a sudden blurted it out Will you marry me? And I'm like what? What did you just say? I don't think they have that on the menu. I've never heard of that. And then I think he was offended. I didn't give him a quick answer, but I can't switch gears now. I have to focus on Taco Bell, and now you want me to make a decision about this, a life decision. So we went home, ate Taco Bell, digested.
Kerry:I needed to, like you know, digesting mentally and physically.
Chrisy:Yeah, yeah, and of course I said yes, but yeah, so I I got the.
Kerry:You're driving us to taco bell and I just love you and can't live without you because you're the only person I want to eat taco bell with the rest of my life. That's like the couple's retreat movie. When they talk about apple bees, well, I want to go to apple bees. Will you go tobee's? Have you not seen that movie?
Chrisy:I haven't I know it's vince vaughn's in that. I, you and you're the movie person. I've seen bits and pieces of it.
Kerry:Oh my god. Yeah, it's basically the same thing. You'll have to watch it now. But oh, that's actually now that you say that that makes the story.
Chrisy:So you are really looking at me with like this is a lovely thing, and I I don't feel the same way. I kind of like the barn and the kneeling and uh, he didn't, wasn't prepped for a yes, uh answer. I guess because there was no ring exchanged at that time, okay, but to give him credit, we were only 19 years old. Oh, so we were very young Now.
Chrisy:He did ask my father for permission, but it was after he got he wasn't going to commit to asking dad and I just remember being really mad about one thing because I hovered you had to go into my dad's lair to find him. And Nick was brave enough to go down into that lair. And I hovered upstairs on the steps to listen. I wanted to hear this yeah, because you know, oh, my god my dad's gonna have to focus on me for one second.
Chrisy:I'm finally gonna get attention from dad. What's dad gonna do? And I'm like, I told him, I warned him, I said just make sure that when you're going down there, time it right you have to go when there's a commercial on, because he will not pay attention to you. Oh my god I, I God, I was always really good at communicating with my father in like 90 seconds to like a minute 20, because you had to get him doing commercials.
Kerry:Catch it on the 25 after the hour, when the commercials were longer, right.
Chrisy:Oh, my God Boy, you got a lot of attention right then and I sat there and listened to my father. He talked to my father and said I really, you know, love her and I'd like to marry her, and my father didn't say anything.
Chrisy:And then this is what pissed me off. My father says you know, I really just want to make sure you finish college, nick. Nick, hello, I'm in college too. Yeah, I guess nick will finish college. What do you think I'm gonna ruin his life? Hello, whose kid am I? Yeah, is he your kid, or am I?
Chrisy:I know I just that like threw me back dad was worried, but now nick and since has tried to explain this to me he wanted to make sure that he was giving his daughter to somebody who was gonna provide and that's how I took it when you said that.
Kerry:so I was like, oh, he just wanted to make sure his daughter was somebody who is going to provide and see, that's how I took it when you said that. So I was like, oh, he just wanted to make sure his daughter was provided for, not me? What?
Chrisy:They're going to finish college. I hate to see you ruin your life with that one, oh honey.
Kerry:Yeah, no, I don't think my dad was.
Chrisy:I don't know what he was thinking.
Kerry:Did you get the question and everything in within 90 seconds of? It was quick. Oh, I do, it was quick.
Chrisy:The show came back up, nick was already upstairs. It was perfect, Aw, so yeah it was romantic. I guess in my way, that's my romance, I will have to say.
Kerry:I will say because you know I was married before. Actually, my husband and I, we both have been married. This is our third marriage. So we both joke around and say third time's a charm for both of us. But my second husband he did propose to me at Chi-Chi's, so we have a connection. We have a Mexican food.
Chrisy:And I did love Chi-Chi's and I'm very excited I've heard that they might be coming back. Oh my God, now I really got to watch because, believe me, probably a lot of my weight that I had at that time was overdoing it at the cheese. I'm I'm thrilled that we have the connection with the Mexican food. I'm sorry that, although I guess I'm not sorry because, no, you know the guy you have now he said third time is a charm.
Kerry:And he is golden, he's golden. You know, you know, even though I was married before I don't I don't have any animosity, nothing like that. You know, it's made me who I am and I both, my husband, I both say that if we would have married each other first, we probably wouldn't have never lasted. You know, we needed those other relationships to learn who we are, learn how to be in a relationship and everything.
Chrisy:So and I yes, I, I believe that to be true for some people On the other side of that, with me and my husband, because we have been married.
Kerry:Yeah.
Chrisy:We both got married at 20. We were both 21. It was not always beautiful, no, and when you're that young and you get married, there's a lot you have to learn, not just from each other and what that relationship means, but for yourself, yes, and you go through, at that age age, a very selfish period especially me. Yep uh, and I will admit, I was horribly selfish and was sorry, chrissy, but now before I was selfish but wouldn't admit it, and now I'm selfish but I admit it.
Chrisy:Yeah, that's true so I always knew nick had some way of understanding me, yeah.
Kerry:And Find that that is and that's how I feel about Jim Like he gets. He gets my broken self and that's what I always say to him. I'm like so broken and he's the only one that can figure it out.
Chrisy:Yeah.
Kerry:Yeah, well, I'm excited then Maybe we'll have some good stories after Valentine's Day. I want to hear Is?
Chrisy:there a friends, valentine, a friendstine. Oh, how do?
Kerry:you call that. Like there was Friendsgiving.
Chrisy:Is there friendstine, a friendstine? I don't know. You show up with wine and a carton of cigarettes or something we could do whatever we want.
Kerry:I don't want chocolate.
Chrisy:I don't want cigarettes either. No, no, no.
Kerry:Not promoting, but I'm sure we could figure something out.
Chrisy:So yeah, cause some people feel like they're very lonely on Valentine's day Cause it's so much, oh isn't that what they call Galentine's day.
Kerry:I think that's what that is that Galentine gals, where the girlfriends get together Galentine.
Chrisy:Yeah, yeah. So all right, girls and boys and everybody, whoever you want to spend that day with, spend it Whatever you want to spend that day with spend it and then tell us all about it.
Kerry:Tell us all about your nightmare or your best dream or whatever about Valentine's.
Chrisy:Day and go spend money on those obnoxious cards that you think are just saying exactly what's in your heart Really.
Kerry:I don't think so, and I'm just saying I'm not opposed to getting flowers. So you know, jim, if you're listening, you know a girl still likes to get flowers, even after 20 some years of marriage.
Chrisy:I'm with you. I'm a traditionalist in that part Flowers, chocolates, a nice nightgown, hint, hint.
Kerry:All righty. Everybody. Happy Valentine's Day, Enjoy your week and we'll see you next week.
Chrisy:Happy Valentine's Day.
