Dysfunction Junkies
Two high school besties reconnect and commiserate their stories as they navigate the dysfunctions of life from marriage, families, illness, death of childhood families, and creating healthy boundaries. Join them each week as Chrisy and Kerry share their stories and life lessons all with a zest of wit, humor, and love. They may not have seen it all, but they have seen enough!
Dysfunction Junkies
The Art of Being Done: When "I'm Done" Becomes Your Superpower
The struggle to set healthy boundaries often comes loaded with guilt, second-guessing, and that nagging voice suggesting you should just "be the better person." But what if that guilt is actually evidence of how deeply you were trained to abandon yourself for others?
In this raw, validating conversation, Chrisy and Kerry explore the challenging terrain of boundary-setting with toxic people, introducing the surprisingly effective concept of "meme therapy" - finding healing through relatable content that perfectly captures our complicated feelings. We share personal stories about reaching the powerful state of being "done" rather than angry or hurt, and how this subtle shift completely changes the dynamic with manipulative individuals who prefer to keep you emotionally entangled.
Whether you're struggling with setting boundaries, recognizing toxic behavior, or simply seeking validation that it's okay to prioritize yourself, this episode offers practical wisdom and the comforting reminder that you're not alone.
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Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast. We may not have seen it all, but we've seen enough. And now here are your hosts, Chrissy and.
DJ Nick:Keri
Kerry:Hello Junkies, I'm Kerry
Chrisy:and I'm Chrisy.
Kerry:Welcome to our episode. Today, we are going to be talking about healthy boundaries, especially from toxic relationships. Yeah.
Chrisy:Yeah, toxic. Remember that movie from the 80s, the Toxic Avenger or Toxic something or other, those terrible B movies we used to watch when we would rent videos. We, oh me.
Kerry:Not me.
Chrisy:Usually I had somebody else running these crappy things.
Kerry:but no, I get it. So, yeah, you know we talk a lot about dysfunction and that this is our safe place. You know, one of the hardest things I had to do was learn how to create healthy boundaries.
Chrisy:Yeah, that's important you. I know early on healthy boundaries.
Kerry:Yeah, that's important you I know early on you're such a worth wealth of words over there, chrissy.
Chrisy:Well, this one's, because this is just, it's toxic.
Kerry:It is. It's just toxic, boy. The words are just flowing. They're just flowing there, chrissy, I'm trying to figure out this one. Okay, maybe it's just me who needs to learn. You've obviously got it figured out.
Chrisy:Well, one of our earlier things that we put out there was that you had brought up that I learned how to create healthy boundaries early on. You did, and I sort of just chalked it up to the fact that I just was going to sort of say you know, a lot of people get multiple chances for recovery, and for me not usually, and it wasn't so much that I created a boundary, as I just like said, created a. I don't recognize you anymore as a person of this human race.
Kerry:Yeah, you, you really, you did figure this out way sooner than I did so, but I'm I mean, it took me a while, but I'm there now. You know and, and I will find, this is I don't know what's that, what's that term, my beige flag or my toxic trait or whatever however they're called. I find support in meme therapy yeah, we're putting the.
Chrisy:You know that's yours. Yes, because until you brought it up I had never heard of it. And then I said, well, you? And you said you're not even sure that it's a thing, but you've, it's a thing. Now I've coined it. I've coined the phrase meme therapy.
Kerry:I have found what would be the validation in some of these memes scrolling through memes and saying, oh my gosh, that's exactly how I feel. Or oh yes, here's one of my gosh, that's exactly how I feel. Or oh yes, here's one of my memes that I came across and it's, and it's so true. It's unfortunately, a lot of. You all met me when I lacked boundaries and was a people pleaser. Let me introduce you to myself now.
Chrisy:I burn bridges as needed and I'm like yes, is this the one that I said, I with the bridget? Wait, no talk about the one that you posted with the bridges.
Kerry:Yes, oh, that was a long one, but oh, it was a good one.
Chrisy:That was yeah.
Kerry:In fact, we had another another listener commented on that. Let me find that on my Facebook page. I enjoy scrolling at night when I'm trying to go to bed and I'll find these little meme things and I and they, just they really help me know that, hey, what I'm feeling is okay.
Chrisy:so while you're looking for that yes my understanding of memes to. I'm limited, maybe understanding of it because maybe I'm watching. Is that the one with the farts or am I just watching? Why is mine set to fart memes? You're getting all of these a profound, lovely memes that have such meaning to our lives and I get the one where the guy walks by a group of unknowing people and just blasts off.
Kerry:So those are reels, I think, more than their me. Oh, I'm I need.
Chrisy:I'm in real therapy.
Kerry:I haven't graduated nick, did you want to add something? I think it's because it's based on what you've been.
Chrisy:It has an algorithm, so it knows what you're looking for, so it's giving it to you and it does, and I am like trapped in this one after another, where there's just and he's I'm laughing at the bed.
Kerry:I am Right so OK, so the little meme thing that I was I mentioned just now. That is a summary of the longer one that I had on my Facebook page.
Chrisy:And the one on my.
Kerry:Facebook page says unfortunately, I don't rebuild bridges, I didn't burn.
Kerry:Just that statement alone. Yes, yes, that was yeah, because a bridge is between two people, the only works of. Both people want to keep it standing, two people who care, two people who don't give up when things get heavy. It takes effort from both sides. If a bridge fails, and you know, basically it's because somebody wasn't willing. I know that I wasn't the one who let it fall and I refused to rebuild something that someone else let fall without even trying to save it. So, no, I won't rebuild a bridge. I didn't burn. I loved that was so.
Kerry:It was very profound, so good yeah.
Chrisy:This is how I get through my dysfunction is I find these things like this that help me Do the people who write these give themselves.
Kerry:Sometimes there will be like an author credit, so like that particular one there wasn't. Sometimes you'll find that it's maybe someone famous that has said it, you know, and if I, if I had seen it with a name, I I usually, you know, I will give that credit. You know, I think a lot of times just people like me that are scrolling through and, you know, maybe put a post on their page. That's my therapy.
Chrisy:There's a little small part of me that feels guilty loving these and finding some value in it because of being a, I have a degree in literature, but I'm not sitting here saying yes, and I belong to all these books groups.
Kerry:I analyze books.
Chrisy:I am the worst probably just like everything else that I have in my pocket.
Chrisy:The worst representation. I'm the worst representation of Catholic schools. I'm the worst representation of this. You know, you try to pride yourself on literature and the great authors of literature and poetry and that, and then you have this like quick stuff. Yes, these things that are thrown at you by people who are unknown or don't know have no background in being an author or literature, but yet they're coming up with these very profound statements. Yes, I think tapping into this for our listeners and for ourselves tells you that we are definitely truly feeling unaffected people.
Kerry:Oh yes, definitely One of the other. What kind of got me on this too, was it was just because, especially with certain things that have been going on with my life, and what I found myself saying a lot is you know, I'm done, kind of going back to that the burning bridges are not rebuilding bridges. That you know I didn't burn is I'm done. And so one of the other things I came across was one that said I'm not mad, I'm just done. And that's what people don't understand. I'm not necessarily mad at everyone, anyone. I'm just done.
Kerry:I accept that that person or people or whoever is causing this emotion in me. I may be hurt, I may be disappointed, I may be sad, but really I'm just done. I'm done dealing with the situation that's robbed me of my peace. I'm done dealing with people that don't love me as I love them, or don't try as hard, that don't put the effort in. I'm just done. And once I get to that point, you know, I see that that person is abusing what I bring to the table. And so, whether it's a family member, a friend, a relationship, I'm again, I'm not mad, I'm not angry, I'm just finished and I'm moving on. And it took me a long time to get to that healthy relationship, healthy boundaries, to be able to accept somebody love them from afar, but to create that saying I'm done I think everything you said has a lot of important things to comment on.
Chrisy:Yeah, I think a toxic person will prefer that you don't get to that point oh 100 they want you to be mad, they want you to be hurt, they want you to be sad, because then they got you where they want you.
Kerry:They still have control over me.
Chrisy:Yes, yes. When you say you're done, it's very difficult for them to argue that yes, and to basically they can sit and cry and beg like a little child or try to manipulate or manipulate the situation. But if you're done and you walk away, you regain and hold the control over that situation.
Kerry:In my opinion, oh, it's 100 percent, 100 percent, you know. And that's where, recently, you know, I was chastised and threatened because of speaking out my feelings, especially on on my, on our podcast here, and and then I came across this meme, and so again I have, I literally have two pages of memes here. That has become my therapy.
Chrisy:I think maybe there might be people, so let's talk about that to you, or what they did to you and how it hurt you and it's like, yes, and that's what we've said on so many of these episodes is, this is our safe space.
Kerry:This is where we can talk about things, doesn't matter how that person feels about me talking about it or talking about situations, because, honestly, if they wanted people to think better of them, then they should have been better, right, we wouldn't be here talking about all these dysfunctional things if they weren't done. So it was like you know, I started to kind of go back to that Catholic guilt and go back to my elephant in the room and my family saying, oh, just say a rosary and forgive them that when somebody was mad at me, I was thinking, ok, it's my fault, I should be. But I'm like, okay, it's my fault, I should be back, and I'm like no, I have a right to talk about what happened to me and what my feelings are. And if people have a problem with it, then maybe they really have a problem with them. So they problem and not a me problem. It is.
Chrisy:So two things I want to offer to that yes. One is I think they like to offer you distractions, yes, and in doing that that's where you're sort of talking about, yeah, they want to distract you, yes, from you, yes. The other thing is I heard this somewhere, I don't know where. Somebody I heard it or read it. It could have been from a movie, and shame on me for not being able to remember it if it was. But you not liking me says more about you than it does me. Yes, there you go. Chrissy had a meme. Is that a meme? It could be. That's just me saying you suck and I don't.
Kerry:Healthy boundaries. So you sit around going.
Chrisy:I don't like you and I don't like what you're saying and I'm like well, that doesn't say much about me, but it speaks volumes about you, honey.
Kerry:Exactly, exactly, exactly, yeah. And you know I've had a lot of people come to me and have said you know good things about our podcast, about how you know they were feeling guilty or bad about. You know how their situations are in their life, and you know that, no, it is okay to set healthy boundaries are in their life and you know that, no, it is okay to set healthy boundaries. And just because you set healthy boundaries doesn't mean that you don't care about somebody, but what it means is you care more about yourself, and here is a time where, yes, it is important to care more about yourself. So good job, chrissy oh, thank you.
Chrisy:The meme therapy sounds great. I think this is something people really should think about. But if this one fails you, you just need to go to the real therapy. There you go, where you just watch the fart videos, because if meme therapy fails for you, switch over to me and watch the fart videos Watch the fart videos and there's a guy on there that has animals that talk, that he does voiceovers for which I absolutely love. I love those type of I love stupid humor.
Kerry:Yeah, I love it yes, so well, and I think I think it was on our last episode. I was trying to come across one of the things that quotes and and I think this is one I was thinking about the guilt you feel about setting boundaries is a sign of how deeply you were trained to abandon yourself, and yes. And oh, I think when we were talking about when grandma burned me. I don't mean to laugh, but it's so horrible, I'm like laughing.
Chrisy:I'm like a protective mechanism in my body. I get it. Grandma burnt me.
Kerry:Grandma used my hand as an ashtray. That was our July 4th episode. If you're wondering what that was about, I get it. Grandma burnt me, but that's really. What it is is how deeply you were trained to abandon yourself.
Chrisy:Yeah, funny how we didn't recognize how, and probably the people doing this with us maybe didn't recognize it either, because it's again. It's like that cycle, it's a constant. It keeps going on and on and on. We're trained to basically abandon ourselves in other people's distractions. Yes, and that guilt thing which I guess we do label and maybe we're not being fair and in general but a lot of people have heard that term Catholic guilt, and just to sort of analyze that for a second, to some extent it's probably not just oh, it's not no Processed through Catholicism. No, it seems to be something everybody recognizes.
Chrisy:And I'm guessing that even people who are not Catholic have this yes, which basically stems more from family and that dysfunction yes Than your faith Correct or how you were brought up in your faith, but it sounds fun when you say Catholic.
Kerry:Well, I use it a lot, especially just because you know a lot of people that I work with. We have used that term a lot. You know we'll say our Catholic guilds, because we all grew up Catholic in the Catholic grade schools and systems and so they're. They're, yes, it's our term, but you're right, it's really anywhere.
Chrisy:So well, and I do have that, which I get very mad at myself because I I really that's one thing about myself that I have a hard time cataloging or describing about or even understanding why I feel that, Like, why am I hesitating on me and how I feel and what I want to do about this situation, why I get mad at myself because then I sort of stop myself, I I'm not maybe being fair, or I need to look at this from a different angle. See, those are very reasonable things to feel and I am not a reasonable person. So then when I feel them, then it causes not just the guilt, but now I'm pissed off at me and I walk around saying don't be like that, you have to just put yourself. There's a point where everybody needs to take a piece page for my book and be completely self-centered.
Kerry:That is true, and that was kind of one of my other things was that we're training boundaries to be stronger than our empathy. So we do, we have to, we have to put our. It's hard, we're so much taught to put others first, but there are times where we have to put ourselves first. We have to put our empathy aside, put ourselves first and that is hard, that is hard to train, but, chrissy, you've mastered it.
Chrisy:I have, and I think it's because I've sort of was left to be okay with being self-centered as a child. Yeah, and maybe my upbringing helped that, because they kind of let me get away with it for so long helped that because they kind of let me get away with it for so long. Yeah. So, maybe when you told me that I learned that early on. Yeah, it was. Thanks, mom and dad.
Kerry:There you go.
Chrisy:Another reason that I didn't have any issues with mom and dad. They made me be self-centered and told me oh, they better prepared you to handle life without knowing it.
Kerry:I know. No, they did. I'm, I'm, i'm'm being. That's a compliment. They really did. It took me how many years to get here, you know, right, well.
Chrisy:I'm trying to think, cause I think that would, if you had parents and I'm going to shout, you know call out my husband a little bit with the things he says that I get mad about. Where be the better person? Or you know, whatever. I don't remember hearing those lines from my parents growing up. Like you know, think before you do that which you probably should most of the time Well, not before you do that, but you know, do you think you'll be able to sleep tonight if you follow through with reacting?
Kerry:the way you're going to react.
Chrisy:I think that you do need to take pause. Yes, in especially situations that are more severe, I think it's good to sort of gather yourself I've learned, but it's taken years, for that Many years. Most of my life I did not have that ability to take pause.
Kerry:Yeah.
Chrisy:I reacted quickly. It's only been, and it probably has been, since I've had children, and even that's been a learning thing too, because you're advocating for your children usually and you're responsible for these other people and you slowly have to learn that it's not just about you. Now you have to take pause, because it's going to be about them, right and how it affects them.
Kerry:Yeah, but you know, and that's one of the things over the past probably this past year has been kind of difficult for a lot of reasons for me, and what I was finding was that I was really getting triggered a lot and I would be in a moment of something and I would just find myself afterwards going God, I really shouldn't have acted that way, and I would be upset with myself and just really beating myself up over how I acted. And then I finally started realizing that every one of those episodes is because I was triggered. So I found this other meme this is a long one, but it was truly fitting and it described it perfectly but you are not yourself when you are triggered. You become who you think you need to be to survive.
Kerry:If we remain in an environment that triggers our fight or flight mode, our identity starts to slip away, because our values and personalities are constantly being hijacked by thoughts of fear, panic and survival. And when I read that, it was just like this awe-inspiring light bulb moment that that is exactly how I was feeling these certain situations that I was being put in. I was triggered and I was reacting and I was immediately kind of in that fight or flight mode, which for me is fight I am definitely a fighter when it comes to my fear response I was instantly responded back to that mode and so it's really helped me. Like when I read that, it really helped me because now I start to recognize when I'm getting triggered and it helps me to stop. Just stop, take a moment, pause, breathe, don't respond.
Kerry:Don't react, because I realized I'm reacting to a trigger. It's not even so much about what's happening or what somebody said, but it's given me that you know. Okay, I just need to create a healthy boundary here. I need to step back. So so I love my memes. I get that.
Kerry:You're looking at my list like oh my god.
Chrisy:Well, no, no, I mean because I do scroll and see these type things. A lot of them. I scroll quickly because A lot of these are like sad Well yeah, they are sad, I run across a lot where they talk about mom and daughter relationships.
Chrisy:And I'm not not that I don't love my mom to death I do Right but I'm more or less. It's more about me and my daughter, yes, and I get very weepy and I think I've even sent her a cup, my daughter some of these and she gets upset when she's like mom, you made me cry, because it's just usually saying something to the effect of how proud I am. Yes, I read one today or yesterday, I can't remember where I thought about sending it to her, and then I'm like do I really want to just bring her down? She just got on summer break and I'm just gonna but it talked about.
Chrisy:Don't let the mess the mess that I am right make you think that it has anything to do with you, and I mean it had a bunch of other things in it, but and then they get you because they play that damn music in the background of these things.
Kerry:It's like the Sarah McLaughlin movies on the animal shelter.
Chrisy:So and I'm like shut that music off for God's sakes. It's just horrible, but most of the time again here. I thought my fart things were memes. I guess they're not.
Kerry:Well, they can be. You know, they're reels, they're reels. Those ones are probably more reels.
Chrisy:My husband's half asleep and I see one. That's funny and I'm like shoving my phone in his face Because I'm like, oh my God, you got to see this, you got to see this. But talking about toxic people, let's touch a little bit on this, and I'm a real believer in toxic people and the energy they put on.
Chrisy:Yes, Toxic people and the energy they put off. Yes, and I think that, especially being older, especially dealing with some of the health concerns that I've been faced with over the last few years, I find that negative energy from people is toxic.
Kerry:There's no other term for it, it is.
Chrisy:And it's as bad as anything we could inhale into our bodies or digest into our bodies. We talk about carcinogens and things like that. We're not supposed to be around and that type of negative energy. You try your best to recognize it and recognize it early enough and basically save yourself from it.
Kerry:Amen.
Chrisy:I mean I've gotten into not really arguments, but just in trying to explain my point of view of this, when I encounter people in family or not in family that say, well, you really should just try to, because of your connection with these people whether it be related or just your history that you should tolerate or show some sort of understanding, be a little bit more easygoing with them, give them more of a pass.
Kerry:Right.
Chrisy:You really? I would recommend no. Yeah, I'm sorry, it just sounds so cruel, it doesn't and it doesn't just matter to a fact about it, but chances are a toxic person is not going to change. They can't Right and they won't Right and the negative energy they bring. I mean it's, it's basically you're putting yourself at risk 100, so you need to sort of free yourself from the, the toxic, the person and people who love to wall.
Chrisy:There are people who wallow in drama, yes, and wallow in. And they, they totally feed off of, yes, all of that, and they, like I can't even explain it to you except to say something weird, like oh, I almost get the impression like that they drench themselves in it and just like swim around in it. Yes, they can't get enough of it, right.
Kerry:You know, and there have been there's been friendships that I have had and then thought in the moment that, oh, this person really understands and they're there for me. And then I realized, no, they're just enjoying the drama, they're like living in that drama and now, because they don't have enough drama in their life, they're sucking off of my drama and adding into it. So what I thought was supportive was really just them not allowing me to move on because they were continuing that drama. So that brings me to a fun meme that I found. Oh, okay.
Chrisy:Okay, yeah, let's hear it.
Kerry:Okay, wait, I got. Oh, I lost it, Wait. Okay, this one was talking about embracing therapy and it says glad to see so many of you embracing therapy. A few of you need an exorcism as well, Baby steps. So going to your energy. Yes, I 100% believe that. Yes, you need to rid yourself of the, of the negative energy, and maybe that's an exorcism, you know, and it even can be little things like for me. I need to start my day like my day is very much depicted on that first hour that I'm up and if things are calm and happy and good and enjoying my dogs and watching them play and whatever, I'm good. But if I wake up and maybe there's a grumpy pants in the house that's a little grumpy or that's something I get a text message, maybe first thing in the morning, you know, or whatever. That's not nice or hurtful or whatever. Then my whole debt, that energy was just zapped out of me.
Chrisy:It's totally deflating.
Kerry:Right. But if I start my day off good and I get my positive energy around me and things are good, then if later in the day, as things happen or negative things happen, I'm better able to cope with it. But if my day starts off and there's negative energy in it, I can't rebound from that. Am able to almost silence the negative, toxic things by almost creating in my mind.
Chrisy:They're non-existent, like I basically forced myself to forget that that's even a thing. It's even there's a person out there or there's a situation out there and I totally can like get rid of it. That's a superpower, well, but here's the problem. Okay, when you get that text, the phone call or something that brings you back to that reality.
Chrisy:It's horrible, it is, and painful, yes, and now you've been, it's almost like somebody smacked you in the head with you know, like, say, you're trying to forget, you have an assignment due or you have to pay a bill, and you're like, oh, I just forget about it. And then it's gone. And then it's like, oh, then you get the notice and the red marks.
Chrisy:Yeah, and the email is like hey, hello, remember me. And I got to's a movie with christopher reeve in it. Okay, called somewhere in time. Oh wonderful movie, very romantic, him and jane seymour. It's about time travel.
Chrisy:Christopher reeve falls in love with this woman's picture, this woman who is long gone. Uh-huh it, I'm not going to go through all of this, but he basically is capable of being able to travel back in time. He figures out how to do the time travel by basically creating in his mind. He's trained his mind to be able to go back to this time period. He buys clothes from that time period and dresses in it and he removes everything from his space that is anything modern, basically rips the phone out of there. Basically, he goes to this hotel where this woman used to frequent as an actress and he brings himself.
Chrisy:He's able to time travel by removing anything from present day and put himself in that time period. Wow, I don't want to spoil it for everybody, but there is a spoiler I have to tell you. It's because he forgot one thing in his pocket and it's a penny that has the date, the modern date on it, which actually was like 1979 or 1980, because this movie is a little old and as soon as he saw that, he immediately returned back to the present and he could not get back to her. So that's what I try to do with toxic people.
Chrisy:I try to remove every existence, anything that shows me that they existed, the situation existed, I remove it. But then, all of a sudden, modern technology with stupid phones and texting and anything else? That's capable.
Kerry:So the text is like the penny. Yeah, the text is like the penny.
Chrisy:I don't want to see that penny. I heard they're getting rid of pennies.
Kerry:They are Wow Because it takes four cents to make a one cent penny, so it's not cost effective.
Chrisy:What did you just say?
Kerry:Is that math? It's math. Oh, I hate it, don't is that math, it's math.
Chrisy:Oh, I hate it. Don't tell that to the people I work for, because I'm supposed to be doing math for them all the time. So, oh man, yeah it's healthy boundaries I'm.
Kerry:I'm proud of myself that I've finally gotten here, but it's a journey and it's one I still struggle with. And, like you said, about the text, even I have certain text streams that I now only allow myself to read once a day. Like, say, I get 10 texts on that text stream. I will not read them as they come in throughout the day. I will only allow myself to read them at one point when I'm in a space where I can handle it, because if there's something toxic in it, I don't want it to ruin my whole day and I'm not going to make it all about my day. So I just you know. But that's one way you know, and I've had people say why do you even, why, why do you block them? It's like, no, there's reasons why I can't, but what I can control is how much I allow that to disrupt me.
Chrisy:So that takes a lot of discipline because, for me, even if I didn't acknowledge this. Whatever, a texture, just the situation in general. It would still be playing on my mind that I know it's out there.
Kerry:Yeah, that is a little hard sometimes. I will, I will tell you. But at the same time, I've really found it helpful to create that healthy boundary and you know, I'm just trying to focus more on the on the good in my life. And you know, I'm just trying to focus more on the on the good in my life and I'm focusing more on those that aren't creating all this dysfunction and aren't creating all these trigger responses. And you know, it's like that takes a lot of energy and I just breathe deeply. Did you see that? And that's good. I'm glad you're still you need but.
Chrisy:I think, you gave a lot of people something to try to help, maybe with this mean, mean, mean I call it mean therapy.
Kerry:I like mean therapy.
Chrisy:I'm gonna go where I get insulted, and I can insult for like an hour of somebody's time, let's insult me and I'll insult you back. That's mean therapy, but you like meme and there, me, me.
Kerry:So before we leave, there's one other thing I want to touch on. Okay, obviously, you mentioned about my one post. I did post on my Facebook page this one thing okay, and a lot honestly, for me on my personal Facebook page, when I post things, it's less about what other people are to, it's less about posting it for other people to read, it's more about I needed that and I want to keep that reminder because you know how you get your memories on Facebook and it'll show you know. That's really why I'm posting it, because I like to see those memories pop up. Oh, this is what I did last year, this is whatever, or maybe that meme just meant a lot and I want to save it. But then what gets me are the people that think that everything you post on Facebook is about them. Oh, yeah, I'm sure.
Kerry:Yes, okay, I gotta find it on here, because this one really hit that well. No, my post wasn't about you. Why did you find something your size? Well, that's from our new guilty conscious collection.
Chrisy:Very good Touche, very good Touché, yeah very good yeah, so I thought there was one other one about that too. Let me look and see. Well, I do have to admit, when I do see posts like that not just yours, but anybody else who is, you know, maybe struggling with something?
Chrisy:Yeah, and they want to make you know a point. Or, like you said, a memory of how you were feeling in that moment. Yes, a point. Or, like you said, a memory of how you were feeling in that moment. Yes, I do have to admit, as a part, you know, just a third party or whatever it is out there. I do wonder, was that me?
Kerry:no, well, no, no, it's never me. Why?
Chrisy:would anybody have a problem with me? Come on, no god, it would be straightforward for me, I. I do wonder who the who, though, yeah, yeah okay, I'm like wow you think it's so, and so who?
Kerry:are they? Talking about so that's the other one. Don't ask if my posts are about you. Ask yourself why that a post applied to you. Whenever people you know read that, they shouldn't be saying, well, is that about me? Well, okay, why do you think that apply? What, what about that made you think it was about you're outing yourself, you yourself, you're outing For being a horrible person.
Chrisy:Exactly. You know, I do think a lot of posts are about me when they're beautiful or funny. I ran into this most beautiful person. Oh my God, I don't even know this person, but they saw me, they ran into me.
Kerry:How disgraceful. Yeah, no one ever says that when you post nice things, they don't. They'll all thank you for talking about me or whatever, but damn, you post one little thing about you had a bad day. Well, what do you mean?
Chrisy:I'm actually sitting over there waiting for you to post the good stuff about me. I'm worried about that. I know it's not about me.
Kerry:Well, I hope this has helped many of you or spark something in you to recognize, if you've had some toxic energy in your life, that, hey, it's okay to set healthy boundaries. And when all else fares, if you can't go to a therapist, you can always listen to us or go find a meme therapy and if even that fills in, find a fart reel.
Chrisy:Yeah, there's three levels to this. Listen to us, first and foremost. Then do your meme M-E-M-E therapy. Then maybe go to mean therapy, I don't know. And then, do the reels the fart reels.
Kerry:They'll get you through the kitty reels, whatever.
Chrisy:They'll do it, they'll fix everything for you.
Kerry:Well, this was fun. Thank you for letting me bring my therapy to our session today. Yeah, thank you. All right, well, have a wonderful week. Please be sure to check out our Facebook page or our website, dysfunctionjunkiesbuzzsproutcom, and we'll see you next week. Bye, everybody, bye.
