City Streets, Country Roads, Same Baggage

What if the place you grew up quietly shaped your quirks, your coping skills, and even the stories you tell about yourself? We dig into city stress, country isolation, and suburban conformity with candid personal stories that reveal how environment becomes behavior. From food deserts and limited green space to long rural bus rides and stained uniforms from well water, we unpack how daily conditions nudge us toward adaptations that can look like dysfunction—or resilience—depending on where you stand. Hear our stories and share yours. Where did you grow up and what stayed with you?

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:07

Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies Podcast. We may not have seen it all, but we've seen it up. And now, here are your hosts, Chrissy and Carrie.

KERRY 0:20

Hey Junkies, it's Carrie. And it's Chrissy. How are you doing today, Chrissy? Oh, I'm doing okay.

CHRISY 0:26

We're uh finally in February, right?

KERRY 0:28

Yes, we are. It's February. Yes, thank goodness, I guess. A few days from the big move. Oh boy.

CHRISY 0:39

I don't think I want to talk about that.

Defining Urban, Suburban, And Rural Roots

KERRY 0:41

All right, all right. So today, Chrissy wanted to talk about how we, depending on where we were growing up, participated in the dysfunction that was in our lives. Yeah.

CHRISY 0:55

But whether it or not, I looked this up and there was information out there. Amazing what AI will come up with. Yeah. Pretty much.

KERRY 1:03

Whatever I tell it, I want it to come up with, it does. So dysfunction of growing up in urban versus rural setting. So I grew up on the little bit more of the rural side.

CHRISY 1:16

Our backgrounds are not very different. They're not very good. Because we were like 20 minutes away from each other. Right.

KERRY 1:22

So but I definitely had less of a community and c neighborhoods surrounding than you did.

CHRISY 1:31

Yes. And I wasn't living in like a high-rise or anything like that. In fact, until uh I was probably way older than I should have been, I had no concept of where I was living. I thought I was in suburbia. Yeah. Just because of the type of neighborhood I lived in. Okay. Which was it was a little bit more out of the norm because where we where I grew up, we had quite a bit of property. Yeah. For being in the city. For being in the city, yes. And so, and everybody kind of all had quite a bit of property over there, nice size lots. And uh the homes were it was a mix of really old farmhouses that had been there for a really long time, and then newer homes that had been built probably towards uh you know the late later part of the 19 whatever's you call that. Yeah. So but I thought this was interesting because I think no matter how you're brought up, yes, and in what kind of situation, urban urban versus rural, or suburban. Or suburban. It it all comes with its uh its I guess benefits and its downsides. Yes. And there are, believe it or not, some aspects of dysfunction that are connected with each. Okay. So let's go down the rabbit hole. Let's go down and maybe anybody who's listening might be able to connect with this and say, Oh, yeah, I kind of know exactly what you're talking about. So urban settings. Uh when when you think of urban, what do you think about? I guess you you think about like New York City. Yeah, I guess yes, Chicago, yeah, places like that.

KERRY 3:10

Big city living, big city living where you could, you know, you don't have a car necessarily, you're walking or taking a subway or does this whole episode just need the theme song from Green Acres?

CHRISY 3:22

Does that basically sum it up in a nutshell? Oh, we should have done that for our opening. Yeah, I don't know what uh what the logistics is of that, but now I'm starting to think, wait a minute, did I just create a whole episode just around the opening of the Green Acres theme? Yes.

City Living And Social Fragmentation

KERRY 3:37

Now I've never lived in that type of situation. I've never lived now you've lived all in di way different places. You've never lived in like so even though when I lived in Las Vegas, I still lived in a little like in housing communities or I had an apartment at one point. So was your apartment it wasn't in a big building though? No, there was only two stories, two three three stories to the apartment building that I lived in. Okay. Yeah, and it was on the edge of town, it wasn't like near downtown, which would be called the strip in Las Vegas. Like it wasn't near that, it was on the outskirts of town, so it was more of a suburbia.

CHRISY 4:14

So suburbia film. Okay. Mm-hmm.

KERRY 4:17

Well, yeah, I mean but I don't think that urban living, I I don't I couldn't do like living, I have to have a yard of some sort, you know, like having an apartment, you know. I only lived in an apartment for a few months. I mean, it was literally just until I couldn't find a house to buy, but that's not I I need to have a yard, I need to have space. I don't like I don't want people on all on the other side of all of my walls in my house, you know. Like I have to have, yeah. So I I think s urban living would be hard for me.

CHRISY 4:49

Right. I have never lived in an apartment.

KERRY 4:53

Really? No, not even for a short while. Not even for a short while. Wow. You are spoiled.

CHRISY 5:02

I lived at my parents' house, and then I moved out and we rented, but it was a house when we first were married. Yeah, it was a small house, and then from there we bought our first house together, and then from there we bought so other than your parents, the only person you've ever lived with is Nick.

KERRY 5:20

Yeah.

unknown 5:21

Wow.

CHRISY 5:22

I guess so. Well, I had siblings in the house for a little while.

KERRY 5:26

Well, yeah, but I mean, like, but that's but but that's different. That's like no. So as oh, interesting. I guess I never really thought about that.

CHRISY 5:32

Yeah.

KERRY 5:33

Okay. Yeah. Because that's definitely a roommates and other people.

CHRISY 5:37

You had a roommate when you were in an apartment?

KERRY 5:40

No, but I've lived in situations where I've had a roommate, yes. Oh. Okay.

CHRISY 5:46

And not a spouse. Oh boy. Are you making notes that this is another episode? No. Well, Nick can comment on because he did go away to call it. He was at the University of Pittsburgh for a while.

KERRY 5:59

So he had a so he lived with other people, other than yeah, so but all right.

CHRISY 6:08

Well, do you want to share anything in regards to Do you consider that urban? You were in a bigger city, Pittsburgh. So I had a bit.

KERRY 6:15

You were you in like downtown Pittsburgh?

SPEAKER_01 6:17

In the Oakland section. University. I was at Went City University of Pittsburgh my freshman year.

CHRISY 6:21

Oh, okay, wow.

SPEAKER_01 6:22

And and it was in the Oakland section of Pittsburgh.

CHRISY 6:25

So you had how many roommates in there?

SPEAKER_01 6:27

I was in a quad, so there was four of us. Oh, okay. And one had a snake. One had a pet snake, yeah.

CHRISY 6:33

Now see, Carrie's not affected by that either.

SPEAKER_01 6:36

It was, you know, it was kind of weird. He because he have to buy you're gonna say something I don't want to hear. He'd have to buy a mouse.

KERRY 6:44

It needs to eat too. So you've experienced the urban living though. So to some extent, I think you have. Way more than me. Yeah, more than both of us.

SPEAKER_01 6:54

Yeah, I mean, because it I wouldn't say, yeah, I mean that the dorm wasn't like isolated anywhere. I mean it was in it was in the heart of a of the Oakland section. Right. Right. Of Pittsburgh. So Right.

CHRISY 7:05

Well, uh and to sort of bring it back to where we were, it we're just talking about backgrounds of places we've lived, but for the point of this, pretty much I guess talking about the dysfunction and maybe some of the negatives uh and positives too of living in each setting. And if you grew up, you know, early on in our formative years. Yeah. So when I was doing some looking into this, it broke it down between what some of the dysfunction in urban versus the dysfunction in rural upbringing is. For urban, it said uh made points of environmental stress, social fragmentation, which I'm trying to understand. Is that basically saying that you're around an awful lot of people? I know a lot of people say sometimes when they're in really high populated situations.

KERRY 7:56

Social fragmentation refers to a division of society into distinct groups that have limited interaction, often leading to reduced social cohesion and cor increased polarization. Maybe by ethnic, maybe by religion, maybe by culture, that those different groups are segmented.

CHRISY 8:18

Like neighborhoods, yes, and stuff like that were brought uh like it. Well, my side of town that I grew up on had a lot more of a different ethnicity and diff uh still Catholic, but again, where we grew up in our area, a lot of the churches that were there had like an Italian neighborhood.

KERRY 8:37

And Catholic churches, Polish Catholic churches, the Greek neighborhood, right? And so in the in where we we grew up, a lot of communities you know had those churches, and around those churches is where those the people of that culture usually resided. So that's I think that's what they're talking about.

CHRISY 8:57

So but I mean uh I'm thinking with uh urban sometimes being around in a situation with so many people, yeah, you don't really have a connection because it's a lot. Yes. We've all heard in different scenarios, sometimes people say they live in New York or whatever, but it's very lonely.

KERRY 9:16

Oh, 100%. Even the when I did live in the Las Vegas suburbia areas of Las Vegas, we didn't hardly know our neighbors. Like we lived in a neighborhood more bigger than your neighborhood here. I mean, it was a big housing community, and other than our uh two next door neighbors immediate, I could we didn't know anybody else in the neighborhood, didn't know the people that lived in the houses behind us on the rest of the street from us or whatever, because people just didn't socialize.

CHRISY 9:47

Do you think that's because uh the residents come from many different areas? That's not like they're this is where they were and they're from and they know the area a lot. Yes, and so they're there and maybe they're not gonna stay there forever.

KERRY 10:00

I think there's a lot of it involved. Um, you know, yes, there's part of that. It's it's just a different culture than say here, where it's just different, you know. And so I'm kind of curious to see how moving to Utah is gonna be. I have a feeling that it's gonna be a nice mix, uh, just because of the type of community that we're moving to uh in the area and stuff, but it it will be interesting to see if this is gonna be uh how how different it is from being in the Midwest.

CHRISY 10:28

Right. So well, yeah, I'd be curious to see what you think. Uh what you're there. Here it's been very and it was similar to where we lived before this. The neighborhood is majority of people who are from here. Yeah. Or have been here for a while. They know the area, they love the area, they want to stay here. Right. And you pretty much are up here or whatever, right? Or close by. Yeah. You know, they they know everybody. Nick can tell you, like sometimes he'll throw out a name, so-and-so's house, or over there, the neighbor so-and-so. And for the most part, I know most of them, but I don't know all of them. He can probably tell you from one end of our development to the other who lives in what house.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

So she still has me doing recon. We talked about this a couple episodes ago. How I was recon for the uh at our first neighborhood we lived in, but then when we moved here, I'm still the recon.

CHRISY 11:21

Well, he goes out because he enjoys sort of hanging and chit-chatting and doing that small talk thing. Uh-huh. And I'm like, yeah, okay, good. But when he hits that door, right away, the questions fly out of my mouth. Right. Who'd you talk to? Who'd you see? What's the new? What's going on in the neighborhood? What's going on?

SPEAKER_00 11:38

What's the closest?

CHRISY 11:40

And if he comes back with nothing, I am very irritated.

SPEAKER_00 11:43

Yeah.

CHRISY 11:44

And I'm like, why the hell did I even let you go out there if you ain't gonna come back with something good?

KERRY 11:48

Or just do you suddenly back out the door and you go, Don't come home until you got something good. I should stuff.

SPEAKER_01 11:52

I should. You're right. Carrie, she's never done that, damn it. How is she gonna do it? Well, what's it? What's he giving the idea?

CHRISY 11:59

Is that he has come back with some really good stuff, and it is so I hate I I hate to admit this about me, but none of you will be surprised. I do love when he's like, You won't believe what I just found out. If you want to really just get my blood flowing and my juices going, just come at me and say, You're not gonna believe what I heard.

KERRY 12:19

And I'm gonna be like, yep. I said that earlier, and then you didn't know what I was talking about, and then you looked at me like I hadn't corn. What was it? My pineapple conversation.

CHRISY 12:29

I'm sorry. I didn't know the pineapple reference, but if it's it has something to do with some like if you came at me and you're like, Chrissy, you're not gonna believe what I heard about this person that we graduated with. I'd be like, What? And then you're gonna say the name and be like, Who? And it's not gonna be that they're nobody, it's just that I have a really lousy memory. I'm not trying to be insulting.

SPEAKER_01 12:48

You actually don't have a lousy memory. You have a very good memory. Yeah, I'm gonna say you actually have sometimes very good memories.

CHRISY 12:54

It's strange. But so, anyhow, going back to this, yeah, urban. So we talked about environmental issues and the so social fragmentation was where we were at. Yes, resource disparity. Now, see, I don't know if I understand that because that seems like that would not be an issue in an urban setting. Are they talking about like being able to have access to groceries and oh wait, maybe I think I know you're going. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

So I think sometimes when you have in in urban areas, you don't have as much uh green space, you don't have as much the built environment is not conducive to a healthy lifestyle. No places for people to walk, things like that.

KERRY 13:38

Well, it also says this is kind of similar to the social fragmentation, that with resource disparity, it's an uneven distribution of essential resources amongst different populations, regions, or groups, inequality to access to necessities for survival of well-being. So I think that in some neighborhoods you have so here we're saying like some neighborhoods have supermarkets with fresh fruits, while others, you know, it's you know so like a lot of your urban areas, if it's very urban, they don't have yeah, they don't have convenient type stores that are carrying fresh food junk. Right, right. So that's where you'll have like where there's a food desert, like in Youngstown is actually a food desert because they don't have you have to kind of go outside of Youngstown in order to get fresh food. But they've been trying to change that a lot.

CHRISY 14:25

They have a lot of green spaces they've got tearing houses down at some point.

KERRY 14:28

Yeah, YNDC has been doing some great things to try to help with that. I mean, there's definitely things going on, but that's what they're talking about. Oh my gosh.

CHRISY 14:35

Okay, well that makes sense. So and then health factors.

KERRY 14:38

Yes.

CHRISY 14:38

So maybe going along with what you said, where they don't have the green space to be able to get outside, get good exercise, get healthy foods, more smog or things like that. You know, environmental things, which is also on the list. So so those are some of the dysfunctional things that are uh people are facing in front of the world.

SPEAKER_01 14:56

Urban areas as well as rural areas have those problems that you guys talked about, but they're different they're different types, right? Right. So is it different ends of the spectrum? And your your your suburban areas tend to not have as many of those.

CHRISY 15:09

Yeah. What is suburbia? Sort of that happy happy is a happy in-between. Where we where we used to live. Where we yeah, where we used to live. Yeah, and everybody was out having polluting the uh outside with their fire pits in the driveway. They were drinking usually. And they still can't crack up that they were having a fire in the driveway. They would put like, yeah, like one of them I know what you're talking about, whatever they could. A chimney or a different fire pit. And they all gathered around it and all their little lawn chairs and kids.

KERRY 15:38

Because they didn't want to ruin the lawn by putting the fire in the lawn.

CHRISY 15:41

No, they were always on the cement, right? Because sometimes the driveway was sloped and it was like everybody was like off level.

SPEAKER_01 15:48

Even this neighborhood's kind of like that too.

CHRISY 15:51

Oh, we go, we hang out around the fire pit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

So yeah, we do.

CHRISY 15:55

Do they have a fire pit or is it in the driveway? It's in the driveway. It's one of those solo things. But it's the solo, which are nice because they actually maintain, so you don't go home smelling like a bunch of smoke. Yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. So it's a fake fire. Well, no, it's fire. I I know, but it's but it's contained somehow. I don't know if it's the way the shapes and draws come out.

KERRY 16:15

You don't smell like a bunch of smoke from then why have a fire if you're not gonna smell like a burnt chimney or who wants to smell like a burnt chimney? That's part of the ambiance of having a few. I know, and we have fires all the time. Jim and I just lit up one the other day because we were burning a bunch of stuff from the the garage that we didn't need, a bunch of wood and stuff. And so we had a big old fire going on. Okay. And I came in and was like, I could smell it in my hair, and I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna have to probably wash my hair now because everyone, if I go anywhere, they're gonna smell like the fire pin.

Rural Isolation And Making Your Own Fun

CHRISY 16:48

Yeah. It's terrible. But so in the rural rural Say it, Carrie. Rural, rural. Why is it such a hard word? Rural? They're uh kind of like Luster. You've been here long enough you can say it, no problem. Economic service gap. Yes. And now, although I don't look at you and think rural for your upbringing, but you were definitely more country than where I was. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. We were right on the edge of town to where it became country. Yeah, and I'm not allowed to have a horse, which like blew my mind back then because I was like, man, you know, yeah, I can't even uh uh believe that, you know.

KERRY 17:29

And where I'm at now is probably more rural than when I grew up. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, because we have we have seven acres. Yeah. Which, if anyone's looking to buy a farm in northeast Ohio, yeah. Shameless plug.

CHRISY 17:43

It's okay, it's a beautiful place. You plug something that's worth plugging. And then isolation stigma, I guess.

KERRY 17:52

Isolation is a big thing of part of growing up rural, and that was you can't really get to your neighbors. Yeah, and that was for me growing up as a child, you know, it was just pretty much me. And so that's where I think I told you at one point I would go around and collect the neighbors' animals and bring them to the house to play with, like, because what are you doing?

CHRISY 18:15

Taking their pet.

KERRY 18:16

Yeah, like so. This house next door to us didn't have anyone living in it, but they had this border collie tied up up front that was the guard dog, and I would always feel bad for it. So I would go and hook it from their house and I'd bring it over to my house and play with it and hang out with it because I didn't have any kids in the neighborhood, and then I would take it back and tie it off. They didn't live there, but they left the dog.

CHRISY 18:36

Jeez, oh man.

KERRY 18:38

I know. I think he must have come by like once a day to feed it or something, I don't know. But yeah, this border collie was always tied up next door. I always felt bad for it.

CHRISY 18:46

That's that's like really not it's uplifting at all. It's very sad.

KERRY 18:51

But but again, but this is part of the dysfunction of how you know this is Why wasn't he living in the house? Where did he go? Well, I think it was his dad's house, and then when his dad either passed away or maybe went into a nursing home or something, and then he had his the son had his own house, and then eventually the son moved into that house, but there was a period of time when nobody was living there, and I think it was from either when the I don't know if the dad died or if he, like I said, I don't know if he went in a nursing home, but there was a period of time where nobody was living there, but the dog was there.

CHRISY 19:21

And they didn't get freaked out. I don't think they ever knew that I was doing there was nobody or anything like that. No. Well, no.

KERRY 19:31

Well, good for you that you gave that dog something at least. I mean, that's really sad. But that I had to make my own friends. So if I didn't have friends in the neighborhood, I had to go steal the neighbor's dog. Well, you may do with what you got. Uh in fact, one of uh a mutual friend that we have used to come over sometimes with me in grade school, and we would we pretended we had our own veterinary clinic, and that was we would go take the dog and you know, we'd pretend to play vet and we'd go listen to its heart and wrap it's oh it's foot's hurt, we're gonna wrap it, you know, fake bandage or whatever. So yeah. This was the one that her name is the same as mine.

CHRISY 20:11

So I remember her, yes, absolutely.

KERRY 20:13

Yeah, well, good for you two. That's you were being nice.

CHRISY 20:17

I'm sure the dog hopefully enjoyed all the attention.

KERRY 20:20

He must have because he never ran away from us and he always loved coming with us and we never got hurt. Did it have a name or did you like give it your own name? His name was King. Oh. That was his name. That was that was what we called him. Yeah.

CHRISY 20:31

Okay.

KERRY 20:31

That's funny. I just remember that. When you first started saying that, I'm like, I don't remember his name, and then boom, came right in.

CHRISY 20:36

You remembered. You just didn't realize you remembered. So, and then also with the rural setting, limited exposure. Yes. Which again, what is that exactly getting at?

KERRY 20:47

I think it's just you're not as exposed to things of the world necessarily. You know, so like if you're living in the city, you're gonna be more up on what's hip, what's new, what's going on, where when you're living in the country, the news may be a little late getting to you, or you may not have that, you know, knowing what's the latest trends or the latest, oh, you gotta have this bag, or you gotta have this type of clothes, or what's the saying they use a lot?

CHRISY 21:15

Six seven rubber is like people like I did not just say that. I did.

KERRY 21:21

But yeah, like you're just it's delayed getting there.

CHRISY 21:24

So well, keeping up with the Joneses is a big suburban term that you because you see what everybody else is getting, the new bright and shiny, whatever.

KERRY 21:33

I joke around that Jim is gonna be the Joneses in our new neighborhood because he's all excited about his new golf cart.

CHRISY 21:39

Oh so yeah, it your golf cart, yeah.

KERRY 21:43

I think I saw a picture of that. I think it looks actually looks similar, I think, to yours.

CHRISY 21:47

Did but yours is everybody's facing the one way.

KERRY 21:50

Yeah, they're all facing forward.

CHRISY 21:51

Yeah. See with mine, it's like a typical one golf cart. So the people who sit on the back sit facing backwards towards the back.

KERRY 21:58

Is it got like the five point? Harness in the seats and stuff, like coach seating on all seats? No. Oh, yeah, his does.

CHRISY 22:04

Yeah. No. Ours is it's street ready, but it's not what you would want to be on the street and without maybe losing some of it. There are seat belts in there, but they're just regular type things. But so and then the other thing, uh, environmental challenges. Yeah. So what because you generally you might have septic and well.

KERRY 22:25

Yes, and that leads to a lot of dysfunction as a child growing up in grade school and stuff. Having well water and you were my first exposure to that.

unknown 22:34

Yeah.

KERRY 22:35

Did you make fun of my clothes being orange? No. Did you notice my clothes were orange? No. Well, that's good to know.

CHRISY 22:41

Mine were. I had a collar issue that my mine was because I used to put that pizzazz in my hair. Oh. That was popular back then, that moose. It just colored the hell out of my shirt collars.

Wells, Orange Laundry, And School Bullying

KERRY 22:54

That was the hardest thing growing up in grade school. You know, we always had to wear the white blouses with our jumpers or with our skirts or whatever, you know, our uniforms. Yeah. And when you have well water, especially back in the day before they had really good filtration systems and everything, you know, everything there was no white. There there was no such thing as white. It was all I remember you used to wear a sweater usually over your probably white shirt. Yeah, because although you wore your shirt too. I did, but it was hard and you had to really and there were times like literally we would take them to the laundromat to do our whites because if the water was really bad certain times of year, like when it got to summer and droughty, then we would take the our whites to the laundromat to wash because otherwise they'd come out orange.

CHRISY 23:40

Well that yeah, that sounds like that totally falls into uh some of this. Absolutely. Yes.

KERRY 23:47

And then you're extremely bullied as a child because your clothes look dingy.

CHRISY 23:53

So yeah, but so you went to school though, even though you were sort of out a little bit in the country, you did go to a school that was fairly populated with kids.

KERRY 24:06

Yeah, remember I said about we, you know, our bus ride was like an hour long because they had to pick up all the kids in the country from all three different schools and truck us into suburbia to drop us off at the different schools. So yeah.

CHRISY 24:17

So you had kids from all different schools on your bus.

KERRY 24:20

Uh-huh, like three different schools.

CHRISY 24:22

But they weren't like schools it wasn't. They were all Catholic schools. Oh, they were all Catholic.

KERRY 24:26

Uh-huh. I think there was a very short time where we did drop off somebody at a public school, but I that was a really like it did that did not last long. But yeah, we picked up like three different Catholic schools.

CHRISY 24:37

And were they all in the town that you were in? Because you I mean there was a few Catholic schools in the town you were in.

KERRY 24:44

Yeah, there was ours to IHM, and then there was one over kind of by Cornersburg area, and then I forget the third one. But there was like three different schools that we dropped off at.

CHRISY 24:55

I could probably one was probably over there on New Road. Yeah.

KERRY 24:59

Yeah. Mm-hmm. And then the other one was on like Kirk Road or something like that. Yeah.

CHRISY 25:03

Shenley area. Yes. The big one. The one that's still there. Yes. So then this information that came up it says that uh for urban is equal to stress-related issues and rule is resource scarcity. In general, they're generalizing, I guess. But I think there's probably a lot that contributes to dysfunction in both settings, and some of them are similar.

KERRY 25:29

Yeah, they're similar, just maybe on a different end of the spectrum. Yeah. Yeah. So I mean, I loved how I grew up for the I mean, like it worked for me. And I definitely think growing up more rural and having that lifestyle, having to take care of the animals and things like that. I mean, it taught me a lot about growing up, and it taught me that, hey, you know, before you eat breakfast for yourself, you have to feed the animals, you know, before you go this, you have to you you learned how to take responsibility for other beings. So but it did come with its challenges. So yeah, yeah.

CHRISY 26:00

Well, I know here where I am now, it's kind of uh a nice mix of the best of both worlds, a little bit. I don't want to brag too much, but because we are in a development that is very similar to where we lived prior to here. Yeah. But surrounding us pretty much, we have farms. Yeah, you do, and a lot of land, and we live close to a dairy, yeah.

KERRY 26:24

Close to a little airport, too.

CHRISY 26:25

Yeah. And uh is that where you're flying in from going forward?

KERRY 26:31

Well, if our friends that are moving to Guam when they come back from Guam have a plane, yes.

CHRISY 26:37

We we kind of I was like planning on them. They kind of hit uh they put a little uh crease in this whole uh plan. The other thing is that we have retail here. There's some things I miss, certain uh different types of retail that we don't have, but in general we have uh uh very uh adequate places, nice places. Yeah, and the one great thing about here is we don't drive far to get anywhere. Yeah. I notice my driving has improved since we've lived here because you generally don't have to be in a hurry because it doesn't take very long to get anywhere. I think if I drive, if I'm in the car for more than 10, 12 minutes, I'm not in town anymore. Yeah. I mean, yeah. Would that be a fair statement, Nick?

KERRY 27:22

You probably have a better I'm actually looking forward to it. Jim and I have been joking around because where we're moving to is is a golf cart community. And we did get a golf Jim did get a golf cart that we couldn't just have the one that came with the house.

CHRISY 27:36

Wait a minute, you got I thought you were just talking about the one you got with the house. You you've got another one?

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KERRY 27:41

No, the one that came with the house was a simple little two-seater where you put throw two bags of golf cart bags in the back, like that was it. So we wanted to upgrade one to a little four-seater. So if the grandkids came over, we had something. So I just like yours, front to back, just a little, just a tiny little upgrade. Well, when we went to the golf cart store to see about trading in the one that came with the house to get that one, that that other one I was talking about. Oh, Jim C is on the other side of the showroom. Oh, this bright light comes down and it's like, but what about this one? And it's like the Lamborghini of freaking golf carts, this thing that he got. And of course, you know, he's like, I want that one. So, yes, we've got that one. Wait a minute. First of all, this is interesting to me.

CHRISY 28:26

So we could trade ours in, sure. Yeah, it's like a car. Well, because we might want to do that down the road. Not right now, it's still it's very yeah, it's not gonna pay it off yet.

KERRY 28:36

So we're pretty close. So, in any case, this golf cart community that we're moving to, there are things that are close. Like there's a a big grocery store that's close by, and there's a couple other things that are close by that actually have golf cart parking if you go to these places that's specifically just for the golf carts. So we've been joking around saying, Well, is it you know, if we have to go into town, which is only like two miles up the road, but you have to take the car, is that we're like, um if we can't take the golf cart, are we really gonna want to go? You know?

CHRISY 29:08

Well, you have a lot to consider, don't you?

KERRY 29:11

We do.

CHRISY 29:12

So well any case, we digress. But I do you think that tying this in with dysfunction and how that all shapes us, yes, and who we are? You brought up some really good points. You did you did feel the isolation. Yeah. And you, you know, uh the unfortunate uh picking at you regarding your clothes because you did have only well water available to you. I think your area probably now, they probably are all tied in.

KERRY 29:39

Well, as of when we sold my mom's house, it had they did get tied into septic, but she still had well water. Oh, okay. If they if we wanted to tie into the well water bec it well or the city water stopped about a quarter mile up the road, and it was gonna cost like twenty or thirty thousand dollars to get it to go that quarter mile to the house. So as far as when we sold it, it still had well.

CHRISY 30:02

Because actually, for a little while when we had our first house, we were well really close to where you were. Oh, yeah, you didn't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And we were actually even a little further west than you were. But it was a it was a development, it was all city, everything. We didn't have that because it was development, yeah. So I'm guessing that if anybody were to build a house over where you were, they probably just automatically tie in.

KERRY 30:26

If it's available, I would I still don't think it's come around like because you know, my mom lived around the at the end of that street and then it went around the bed. So if if you were building a house somewhere between here and here, you there's still no water. You'd the their water ends a quarter mile this way and it ends like a mile that way. So I'm surprised. I would imagine that would build up they were building a lot of they cut a new street off. They did, but it's still it depending on where you're at, you know. Yeah, you could get it, but you're gonna pay to run the pipe even if it even if it ended two houses up in order to get into it, then you have to pay for that to come to your house.

CHRISY 31:04

But if they got it if they slowly got it getting closer to where you were, it would probably be cheaper to tie in, would it not?

KERRY 31:10

Yeah, if the neighbor next to you decided to do it than you did, yeah. But if the if if there's two neighbors between you and the house that had water, so then it's gonna be you you would have to pay to go past all their houses. Right. But this means me to question for our global listenership. I want to know what they have experienced dysfunction growing up and wherever they were at. So, you know, how is you know, we know it's we have our experiences here in the United States. Right.

CHRISY 31:41

And I think they're fairly similar, depending on uh probably.

KERRY 31:45

I mean, there's some changes, but I'm also curious for our listeners that are in, you know, our newest country, Japan or Germany, or United Kingdom, Pakistan, Brazil, Kenya. I mean, we've got 19 countries listening to us. So share with us your experiences and where you grew up and if it created any dysfunctions in your life, good or bad. We would love to hear that.

CHRISY 32:12

Yes, definitely.

KERRY 32:14

Alrighty. Well, we're gonna wrap this up. Now we are in the month of February, so don't forget we are supporting the American Heart Association this month as our junkies care initiative. You can learn more about them by going to our website, dysfunctionjunkiespodcast.com. I could also go to the American Heart Association website, which is heart.org, and learn about them and all the amazing things that they do. And hey, if I can give you a tip out there, take a CPR class. Even if you just watch some videos on YouTube or anything, learn some of the basics because you never know when those life saving measures could mean the difference between life and death for maybe a friend, a family member, or a loved one. Yes. Alrighty, see you next week. Bye, everybody.