No Offense, But Your Red Flags Are Showing

Ever met a one-upper who turns every chat into a contest? Tired of “I had it worse” and “I knew that already”? We’ve got stories, humor, and practical scripts to spot narcissistic talk and keep your cool. Stream it now and share: what comeback actually worked for you?

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Transcript

Cold Open And Host Banter

SPEAKER_00 0:06

Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies Podcast, where we may not have seen it all, but we've seen enough. And now, here are your hosts, Carrie and Chrissy.

SPEAKER_03 0:21

I don't like it. We've done 70, 80, 91 episodes or something. And you throw me, you throw my mojo off, changing it up. I think it does.

CHRISY 0:37

It's not anything you're doing wrong. No, it's just like, wait, well, we like our brains are so wired to hear it the other way.

SPEAKER_03 0:45

I appreciate the levity, though. But hey everybody, I'm Carrie.

CHRISY 0:48

And oh yeah, I'm Chrissy.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

I was ready to do it over.

CHRISY 0:53

No, no, no, no, no. And obviously, Carrie, I'm glad to know that both of us are totally not flexible.

SPEAKER_01 1:00

No. So I have to be honest with you. I messed up because my thought was to go back to the old, you know, the you were already, your brain was already rewired.

Setting Up Today’s Topic

SPEAKER_03 1:10

So I gotta go practice. Oh my gosh. All right. Alrighty. So Hi everybody. Hello. Oh my, it is March. We're getting there.

CHRISY 1:24

I don't know where we're going, but we're getting there.

SPEAKER_03 1:26

We're going there. So Chrissy went down a rabbit hole of again. Again. Yeah, can you imagine that? No, not at all. And so today's topic is phrases self-centered people use.

CHRISY 1:40

I love my list of phrases and things that people shouldn't do or used to do and don't do anymore.

SPEAKER_03 1:47

Or I'm going to have to say, I think I might have a few memes that might I I realize I've been slacking on my meme therapy. So while we're talking, I'm going to scroll through some of my memes because I feel like I might have had a couple recently that kind of relate to this. Yeah.

Defining Self-Centered And Narcissistic

CHRISY 2:04

And uh just so you know, I always want to make sure I give credit. If there some of this stuff I find is just generated from a lot of different places, but not a specific source or a person. This one is actually a chase. Isabel Chase. Okay. Yes. So I always want to make sure I do that because uh thank you. Everybody out there is thinking and providing us with content. And we like to make sure that everybody knows that came from your article. Yes, absolutely. So these are phrases self-centered people use in everyday conversation. So beware of people using these phrases.

SPEAKER_03 2:45

If you are, uh oh. Yeah, really. And I I feel like self-centered could be, you could replace that with narcissistic. Absolutely. Yes, yes, these are these are definitely very narcissistic.

CHRISY 2:56

And I think I also noted they have it defines a toxic person. Yes. These phrases, definitely. 100%. I hate to generalize that. And maybe there's a deviation somewhere, but in general, I think it also, as Carrie said with narcissistic narcissistic people and toxic people, which I guess are pretty much one and the same. But I guess let's get into it.

SPEAKER_03 3:22

Let's get into it.

CHRISY 3:23

Here we go. Um what do you got? What's the first one? My very faded printout.

Phrase One: I, Me, My

SPEAKER_03 3:28

But you know what? I can't complain about your faded printer because part of the reason why your printer's faded is because you're printing for me, because I have no printer right now.

CHRISY 3:35

No. Well, the printer, it's been a very good workhorse and it's done a lot for us, but it it's I think it's just we've had it for a while and it's done a lot of printing. It's at its end of life. Yeah, I think so. Okay. So number one on the list, I, me, my. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 3:51

Which an immediate sign of a self-centered conversation participant is the constant use of I, me, and I.

CHRISY 3:58

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 3:59

I this we're starting off light. Yeah.

CHRISY 4:01

Because I think a lot of us we're talk- we we do have to talk about ourselves once in a while.

SPEAKER_03 4:06

That's what we do.

CHRISY 4:08

So I don't know that this is the uh be-all end all of the definition of what we're trying to get to. Right. But I understand it's a good jumping off point. Yes.

The Workplace One‑Upper

SPEAKER_03 4:18

So do you know some people who overuse the I mean, my a variation of this. One of my pet peeves are people that always have to one up you. And I didn't look. Maybe there's maybe that's farther down the road in in your thing. But it kind of relates to the I mean my. You know, the the person that you're telling a story to. Did you see my thing on Oh no, who what? On my actual type. Oh, this one has to be no. Oh, the one-up people. Yes. Okay. See, I don't I don't look at the notes, people. But you were on the same way, we're on the same page. Yeah. So I cannot stand because there always seems to be one. And why is it always in the workplace? There's always that one person in the workplace that no matter what story you tell, they can one-up it. And I'm not good about like my facial reactions to this kind of stuff. So you're not a good poker player, is what you're saying. Not when it comes to poker. I do not. No. Like, for instance, this one lady that I had to work with at one point. I I was talking with another coworker, and we were talking about our birds. And this lady, like, I'd never heard her talk about an animal before. And she's like, Oh, I used to have a cockatoo, and she's just going off and off. And I'm like, It was probably a cockatiel, not a cockatoo. And I'm like, and he probably was a stuffed one. Cocktoo? A cockatoo with the kombuchi poo. And a barn swallow. And a barn swallow, yeah. But in any case, yeah, the one-upper. So that and that's the person that they gotta get the story back to them, the me, the I, and this isn't relatable. So they're they're gonna make it uh and and it's an unbelievable. It's like, you know, and I and I've caught myself on more than one occasion with like especially this one particular person that as soon as they start a story that starts the one-upping, I'm like, of course you did.

CHRISY 6:14

Yeah, you're kind of do you like stop just to wait for them because you know they're gonna be. You know what's gonna happen. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. You know, it's funny you say that generally you work with these type of people. Although we want in the workplace. We've encountered it in social circles too. But I think it's interesting you say that because I think it is true that probably in the workplace, yeah, you come across this a lot. And I think maybe just because there's a general competition factor in the workplace, and there's like uh hierarchy, yeah, uh dynamics that people are trying to really maybe claw their way one way or the other, or try to gain the attention of the higher ups so they are trying to make themselves relevant, yes.

SPEAKER_03 6:54

And they feel inferior and and I think why I also feel like it always seems to be like you always have one of these in the workplace, it's probably because if I ran into somebody like this outside the workplace, I don't have to hang around them and I quickly don't. But in the workplace, it's kind of like your neighborhood kids. You're stuck with your family, yeah. In your family, you're stuck with it. It's just funny. You don't have much choice other than finding a new job. For that is a good one. But then you're just gonna find another one upper in the next place. There's always waiting around the corner at the water cooler.

CHRISY 7:27

Waiting for you when you're thirsty. Yes. I mean my one upper. Yeah. Okay. I think that's a very good way of also defining this list. Yes. Going along with the I mean. Here we go. And you're talking about something, and they say, that reminds me of when I dot dot one-upping story. Yes. That reminds me of the time I was on fire. Yes. But I still had time to rescue a family of four out of their burning house.

SPEAKER_03 8:00

And you did not walk away with any burns.

CHRISY 8:02

And I was unscathed. I applied lotion that morning that helped.

SPEAKER_03 8:08

Exactly. This is what I'm talking about. Yeah. Oh my god. I do not have a poker face when it comes. Like my eyes twitching right now. Like, I can feel it.

CHRISY 8:17

Just thinking like springing.

Story Toppers And Absurd Bragging

SPEAKER_03 8:18

You're having like a PC of toxic one upper people. Yes, I can't. I do not handle this. Yes. It's hard. Yeah.

CHRISY 8:26

There are some people who can really deal with it. I do. I think I I don't think I do either. That's why I generally, I'm honest, I'm not real good with idle chit-chat. And I send uh DJ Nick out. Not that I just he's more patient when it comes to that. There are places where I'm more patient, but this is not one of them for me. And it's not that I will be immediately disrespectful or critical, but it's exhausting. It is. It wears you out, and then my face hurts because you try not to contort in all different ways. Do you want to say something, Mr.?

SPEAKER_01 9:03

No, I just, yes, I'm more tolerant, but the reason I'm more tolerant is because I like that have the conversation about that person afterwards. Afterwards. I love to hear what you have to say. Because that's entertaining to me.

CHRISY 9:17

Yes, we do generally have to have a some some obsession after being exposed to.

SPEAKER_01 9:22

Yeah, generally our whole time together, I've been the recon guy. I'm the recon of the couple.

SPEAKER_03 9:27

So I had to laugh because Dawn and I, uh, when I was taking my bird to Utah for her to watch while we're moving, we were uh running errands and stuff. We were talking to the lady at the post office and we're just chit-chatting, and and we were talking about, you know, toxic people and difficult people and stuff. And the same thing, we were giving this poor little girl at the counter credit for having to deal with these people. And and Don says, Yeah, I'm not a public facing person. And I just I had to write it down. I was like, oh my god, that's so perfect. Like, that is so me. I am not a public facing person at times. I mean, I can, I can up to a point, but then you get that one upper, you get that narcissist, you get that one person that you're just like, mmm, you broke my barrier. I'm done. Perfect, Dawn. I know.

CHRISY 10:19

So it's true. So the uh next one, no offense, but Oh so now I'm like really excited about telling you something. But maybe, especially with me, there's probably some sliver of something that's not appropriate in what I have just said. So then you gotta deflate my ass by saying, no offense, but no offense, but I think you need to get back up like 20 yards for me right now, honey. No offense. No offense, but something might happen.

SPEAKER_03 10:58

It might throat punch you if you don't back up, Felicia.

Not A Public Facing Person

CHRISY 11:04

Bye, Felicia. Movie reference. Thank you. Friday. So yeah, so tell us about your experience with this. If you have obviously you've heard this type too. Uh-huh. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 11:16

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I can't, I don't have a off the top of my head, but yes, the the no offense. Like that's you've pissed me off now. And you haven't even finished the phrase. Those are.

CHRISY 11:26

It's sort of like a saying that cuts you off at the knees, too, because you probably are really saying something. Yeah. And you weren't even able to get to your point. So they're already basically assuming where you're going. Yes. And it may very and probably isn't at all what they were expecting. Right, right.

SPEAKER_02 11:43

But they didn't give you the chance. No. No offense, but I really don't care. Yeah.

CHRISY 11:49

Shut up. So here's your next one. After they say, no offense. But here, you should have. Really? Should I have? Yeah. Should I? Yeah. Really? What would you have done?

No Offense But: The Pre‑Insult

SPEAKER_03 12:05

I don't know. Have you done this? Back seat driver. Uh-huh. Like to micromanage? Micromanage much. So but I'm afraid people are probably like so much of this reverts back to the one-uppers. You're right.

CHRISY 12:24

It is. It's this defines a lot of different types of but the same. Different but yet the same type of people. Number five. But I had it worse. This one's just right out in your face. If you say this, you are just telling everybody immediately. They don't even have to sit and ponder what you are. Yeah. You are a one-upper. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 12:43

I had to walk uphill both ways in the blizzard. I don't remember any of my parents saying that. Oh yeah. I got that. Uh I got a lot of this from my my dad. Oh, really? Oh, yeah. A lot of these, but they're all narcissistic kind of comments and stuff. And that's what I'm saying. Yeah.

CHRISY 13:02

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I guess I I I I seem to recall an adult in my life basically always like, can I just have a minute? You don't want people to feel bad. Right. So you do try to but this is such a a bad route to do it. Where they have to remind you of somebody who and they basically don't even let you finish expressing how you're feeling right then, which is bad about yourself. And maybe you're sitting there wallowing in self-pity for a minute. Yeah. And they have to come at you with this. Well, you know, so and so. Yeah. What? Who the hell are you talking about? First of all. And why do I care? Yeah. Me. It's about me. Oh my god, is this just about me? I just said me. You did. Oh my god. Oh what is he side-eyeing me for? Don't you dare, sir. So here's the next one. I knew that already. Well, how did you know that already?

SPEAKER_03 13:59

Don't you know? Everyone knows. Everyone knows that. Everyone knows who shot JR? Yeah. No. How did you not know? Everyone knows. I knew it. How did you not know it? I don't know. Yeah. Gaslight. Whatever.

CHRISY 14:14

These are all about just being correcting and just i Yeah. Jesus God, if there's anybody out there that says all these things, I I really I don't know what this is. Let's see. Number four.

SPEAKER_05 14:28

All right, maybe.

You Should Have: Backseat Judging

CHRISY 14:29

Well, we got two. What do we have? Two more. How many do we have on this list?

SPEAKER_03 14:32

I, no offense. You should have. Wait a minute. I, no offense. Oh, I. That reminds me of when I, no offense, but you should have known, actually. Alright, that didn't read as well as I thought it was going to be.

CHRISY 14:51

Well, I think you're on to something, though, because I think that that you could do that. Yeah, you could.

SPEAKER_01 14:55

You're gonna create a mad live with it.

CHRISY 14:57

It is a mad live. Yeah. Well, the next one is I knew that already. Yes, right. Oh, wait, we already talked about that one. We knew that one.

SPEAKER_03 15:05

Yes. Okay, number seven. Actually, it's actually the sky is really not blue. It's really fantasia purple.

CHRISY 15:19

During the hour of this and this, the sky would be representative of what the ocean not churning is doing. It's a little bit of a gray. Is that really gray?

SPEAKER_03 15:33

Actually, actually, it's number eight. Not my fault. Yeah.

CHRISY 15:42

This sounds like a I I this is just childish. If you're saying this is an adult, like you can get away with this as a child. Yeah. It's not my fault. Chrissy's leg got stuck in the bike, and she's laying two blocks away on the sidewalk with her bell bottom shoved in the tire.

I Had It Worse: Competitive Suffering

SPEAKER_03 15:58

It's not my fault that she ate that mothball. No. I told her I wasn't sure what it was.

CHRISY 16:06

Just because it looked like a cube of sugar. It wasn't square. It was round. What the hell's wrong with you?

SPEAKER_03 16:12

It's not my fault that she didn't know that she shouldn't put things in your mouth that don't smell like sugar. No.

CHRISY 16:19

It's not my fault that I slammed on my brakes and she was riding too close and rolled down the hill and pulled her nail off. What the hell? Do you understand this could happen?

SPEAKER_03 16:30

Chrissy?

CHRISY 16:31

All this stuff seems to pertain to me. I'm a little bothered. But I never said that. I was always, let me tell you everybody. You were thinking it. No, I owned it. I own it. You do own it. She ripped her fingernail off. Actually, it was my fault. Yes. Because I was going fast. I slammed on my brakes. I wanted to see what happened. So yes, it is my fault. Yes. Yes, I wanted to see what happened if this child stuck this what I didn't know for sure what the hell it was in her mouth. It looked like sugar to me. But obviously her spinning it across the floor and running away in terror told me it was not anything I wanted.

SPEAKER_03 17:08

And for those that you that might be new listeners, Chrissy is making we are rumbling in a lot of references. Very early episodes. From many episodes. So if some of this banter does not make sense, I encourage you to go back and listen to some of our previous episodes from season one where Chrissy, you know, yeah torturing. Torturing her small children childhood friends. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 17:32

So but but we all know it was your fault.

SPEAKER_03 17:35

So I I die.

SPEAKER_01 17:36

So honey, I'm gonna go back to my previous statement. It's not that you're self-centered, it's just you know what you want.

CHRISY 17:43

Yes, I want to see. Uncomfortable for a minute. I was curious what would happen.

SPEAKER_01 17:51

I wouldn't You know who you are and you want what you want.

I Knew That Already: Smug Correcting

SPEAKER_03 17:55

Did it end at eight? There's no nine and ten. I don't, I think it was just eight. What? Do you have more? No, but I'm just you think that ended too abruptly? It did end up too abruptly. I'm like, wait, you can't end at eight. You stop at five, you stop at ten. You don't stop at eight.

CHRISY 18:11

Well, eight would disagree with you.

SPEAKER_03 18:13

I feel important too.

CHRISY 18:15

Actually, I mean I'm number eight, and I that's all I have, folks. So did I have any notes on that? We besides the fact that not a whole lot because I feel the list really spoke for itself.

SPEAKER_03 18:28

Yes, it did.

CHRISY 18:28

So but uh yeah, these are self-centered comments, and they can define a self-centered, toxic, narcissistic person.

SPEAKER_03 18:37

Narcissistic. Uy, yeah, yeah. But I'm trying to find my memes. I I really have been slacking on my memes. I don't have a lot of that pertain exactly to right now. What's the one? Oh my god.

Actually: Pedantry And Control

CHRISY 18:50

What? Going, you're talking about memes. I'm talking about those horrible videos I watch real quick. They're the same segue. They're the same therapy. There is a one I crack up and it always comes up, probably because it knows I always have to stop and watch it. It's a fart one. Oh, well, of course. No, of course. I roll around in bed laughing my ass off. It's this guy or somebody. I'm guessing it's a guy. I don't know. I hate to generalize. Oh, if they're forwarding like this, it has to be a guy. But it sounds like the beginning of the song from the 90s, Chris Isaac. What's the name of the song, Nick? It's a very like editing out that long delay. Yes, please. It's like it's one big hit. I I gotta look it up. Now I'm looking up stuff. Good lord. But it's so perfect because it sounds like the beginning. Wicked games. Wicked games. That just came into me. I wish I could. I don't know what the rules are.

SPEAKER_03 19:43

Okay.

CHRISY 19:43

As far as what copyright, but you only need to listen to the first two seconds of the song, and the guy's fart sounds exactly the same. When the show is over, I will play it for you. Okay. I'm not going to try and get into any copyright issues and get try to get some letter of cease and desist. Uh, but anybody who knows what I'm talking about, Google it. Go on Facebook, go on Instagram. It's there because it's always popping up for me.

SPEAKER_05 20:07

Yeah.

CHRISY 20:07

And it cracks. So you're talking about your memes. Yeah. I'm still going strong on the fart. You're still on those phones. So what did you find?

SPEAKER_03 20:15

I did it. Everything that I found was not quite related to what we're talking about. So it was everything I have lately is kind of more like the moving on from narcissistic relationships. So and you're literally moving on. I am definitely. So uh Chrissy's having a hard time dealing with that, but we're gonna be okay. We're gonna be okay.

CHRISY 20:37

She, I have to believe she's right, we'll be okay.

Not My Fault: Dodging Accountability

SPEAKER_03 20:39

We will be okay. So, yeah, I mean Yeah, these uh there are there are those phrases that they just catch you and they're like nails on a chalkboard, you know. Like I said, that that one upper person. I mean, as soon as they as soon as their mouth opens or as soon as they start sucking in the air to talk, I'm like, I have to look away, I have to control my eye roll.

CHRISY 21:02

I'm just like you know what's funny is with these type of people who do use these terms or are the definition of the one-uppers. Yes, they truly. We personally, I know I could think of somebody, I'm sure he's thinking, we knew somebody from our past earlier on in our relationship, shortly after we were married, uh, who was definitely one of these types. Yeah. And you know, when you come across somebody like this, you really you try to avoid them. Like you don't want to engage.

SPEAKER_03 21:28

But then I will say there have been times when I start seeing the pattern, you know, like, oh, this like if you meet someone new, you know, a new new worker in the workplace or whatever, and you start seeing, and you're like, oh, this is gonna be the one up, or this is gonna be the person I will eventually be annoyed with all the time. So you try to shut the behavior down early by calling them out on it. In a humorous kind of way. So what what would be your approach to like the bird person, you know? Oh, well, I used to have a cockatoo. Are you really sure it was a cockatoo? Wasn't a cockatoo? Do you are you sure you have your breed right? Like I just start questioning on him because I'm trying to truth find and fact find and I'm trying to like, you know, really okay, is this really true? Is this fact or fiction? You know? And then like or or when they start going, oh my gosh, I would have never guessed. I would have never thought. Like you get overreactive, like you get over-engaged in their story. Like too much. That would be my approach. Yeah, like too much.

CHRISY 22:23

To just totally humiliate you. Because you humiliated me. And now game's on. It's a humiliate off.

SPEAKER_03 22:31

Who's gonna humiliate the most? But you have to be careful. Like the there's a fine line of, you know, you gotta kind of read the room on what you can get away with on that or not.

SPEAKER_01 22:42

Especially in the workplace.

SPEAKER_03 22:43

That's what I'm saying in the workplace. But again, you know, if if it was out of the if it was if it was just normal, you would just be able to like, okay, I'm hanging out with you. You know, if it was the one uppy neighbor, I just don't go outside when you're taking your trash out. Because I don't want to hear that, you know, oh, your trash can't been cleaned three days before mine. I don't care.

Memes, Humor, And Coping

CHRISY 23:04

You brought it up to the house three days ago. Yeah. Or they did and you left yours down at the curb.

SPEAKER_03 23:10

And actually, you know you're supposed to bring the garbage cans up, but two days.

CHRISY 23:16

The other thing, uh, now that you bring that up, it it's the passive aggressive statement.

SPEAKER_03 23:21

So passive aggressive. Yes. Where uh just tell me how you feel. You're pissed off I didn't bring my garbage bag up.

CHRISY 23:27

When are you gonna bring that garbage can up? Yeah, I mean, just straight. Just say it. Just say it. And I'd be like, Well, Jesus, you noticed it. What the hell? I've been busy. Why don't you bring it up?

SPEAKER_03 23:35

But see, that's the two different kinds though. You have the person who wants to say what they want to say, but they're trying to be nice about it, but they're really not. They're being passive aggressive. And then you have the other type of one-uppers that I think they're just trying to be relevant. I think they're just trying to fit in. And those are the ones I think I have more of a problem with than the person who just is annoyed with me. Like, fine, you can be annoyed with me because chances are I'm annoyed with you too. So we're good. We're good. I understand you. I can respect that. But the person who's hungry for attention on that, like they're just like trying to be relevant. Oh, oh, I, you know, oh, I want to be Carrie's friend. So I'm gonna talk about the bird, or oh, I'm gonna talk about I like to travel, and oh, I'm gonna talk about there.

CHRISY 24:16

Is now that you mentioned it, I was thinking about like the trash can or something silly to say it like that. Yeah. There are we have uh uh people who are we're friends with who there's a point where you can get away with it because you just really know who the person is. Yes, and they know you, yes, and you know each other's sensitivities, you know each other's sense of humor. You can get away with it's hard to explain, but I'm sure everybody understands it when I tell you this, where you could say these sort of passive aggressive statements that in given to anybody else or said by anybody else are offensive. Yeah. But then you have that nice group of true, yes, wonderful people who you can say these things to, yeah, and you really mean it lovingly, right, and you basically are kind of playing off of each other. You really appreciate the person and who they are. And you respect the fact that you're able to joke with them in the room. Right, right. It's not offensive anymore. Right. But that that's a thin line, and you have to know your place and you don't just get there right away. Yeah. I mean, that's basically building a relationship. Yeah. Read the room. So some of these things could be fun. Yes.

Spotting Patterns Early

SPEAKER_03 25:28

And you know then there becomes like you saw it, that thin line of you're not fun no more. You're annoying.

CHRISY 25:35

No. So if you get to that point, then you probably know it's time to step away. Start looking on indeed for you, John.

SPEAKER_03 25:46

They get away from start over. Oh my God. I heard the best thing the other day. It was so funny. About like, you know, when you're at a workplace and there there's a revolving door or whatever. And so you have your group of friends, and then a lot of people leave, but you're still there, and now you have new ones. So it's like you're you're in the new season, you know, you're in the season three of this workplace with your new cast and everything, but you're the OG. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh my God. I laughed so hard when I heard that because it made me think about a few jobs that I've had and stuff. There's been like, oh yeah, yeah, you're in the season two cast.

Calling Out Gently And Reading The Room

CHRISY 26:17

I do speaking of seasons and people who you work with, uh, not gonna comment too much, but recently there was a speci uh it was a toxic sort of person in a workplace that I was reminded that was there and was a one-upper type of a person. And you just get to the point, and where I am too, where I've been made to be more patient, more accepting, if picking battles, we've talked about all of this stuff, to the point where it didn't even bother me anymore. Earlier on, in having to be in situations with this person, it bit just burned me all the time. I couldn't stand it. It just was like, why do I have to deal with this? And I do try to tell people sometimes, not all the time, and you don't want to wish anything bad. This is not about anything. No, no, no, no. But sometimes unexpectedly, these people end up burning their bridges everywhere. Sometimes there is little karma. Karma, there is little little gifts with patience. Yes. So uh, you know, it's hard to get there, but sometimes you just have to sit there and say, you know what? There'd be a point where either I'm gonna be accepting, maybe they'll change, yeah, or maybe you just don't have to deal with them anymore. Yeah, true.

SPEAKER_03 27:24

So you know, we've talked before about one of the topics that we want to bring up on an episode is dysfunction in the workplace. I I think we're getting close to maybe we we need to talk about some of our has that been one of our possible show topics? Yeah, it was, but we have never really gone down it. Like we might have referenced things here and there like we are now, but never really had a full shop topic about it. You and I I'm sure both have. Oh yeah.

CHRISY 27:48

Some great I know I've had a lot of jobs. And you've had very interesting jobs. Oh, yeah. Might have been more common type jobs, but tons of dysfunction. Oh gosh, yes. But you had interesting jobs with dysfunction.

SPEAKER_01 28:00

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_02 28:01

Completely.

SPEAKER_01 28:04

I had boring jobs. You you you're one down there, as well.

CHRISY 28:07

I've won down, but I got great stories. You do, dude. I they're not as I my jobs were not interesting, but damn it, if the people that were not surrounding me were not interesting, they definitely were. I love, oh yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:20

I'll have to we'll we'll uh it's a good one. I'm we'll bring this up on another one. I'm gonna write this down my thoughts for uh our our workplace dysfunction episode. I had an idea. Perfect.

SPEAKER_01 28:31

That might be a two or three-part or it very well gonna be.

SPEAKER_03 28:34

Yeah, you know, and I think we need to do another. We need also need to do an episode on we need to recap funerals and death. But we uh we've got more coming on that. I'm gonna let you take the lead on that. I'm I'm exhausted with that.

CHRISY 28:46

I'm done. I'm it's dead. So but I will be happy to be uh a passenger in your uh in your lead on that.

Passive Aggression Vs Honest Directness

SPEAKER_03 28:56

You know, again, unfortunately, you know, part of working at a church is you are exposed to to death. And we have been well, let's wait. I think we've had seven funerals in the past two weeks. Wow, yeah. So yeah, so it's like there's that. And then the other topic, oh man, it was right on the top of my tongue. So we want to talk about workplace, we want to revisit death, and then I had another idea and then I got I lost it. But I'll I'll I'll think about it. We got some good shows coming up.

SPEAKER_02 29:21

That's the one of the tournament show. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_03 29:23

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CHRISY 29:53

Yes, and your personal experiences.

SPEAKER_03 29:55

Absolutely. All right, everyone. Have a great day. Bye, everybody. Bye-bye.