Cinco De Mama

Cinco de Mayo is supposed to be light, loud, and fun, but sometimes a date picks up a second meaning that never goes away. We talk about why May 5 can feel like a party and a memorial at the same time, and how we’ve learned to make space for both. “Cinco De Mama” becomes our way of honoring loss without losing our sense of humor. Tune in and tell us what’s your ideal Mother’s Day or Cinco De Mayo meal?

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Transcript

Welcome And May Small Talk

SPEAKER_02 0:07

Welcome to the dysfunction junkies podcast. We may not have seen it all, but we've seen enough. And now here's junkies.

KERRY 0:20

I'm Carrie. Hi, Chris. Oh, it's this wonderful time of the year. It's May. I'm so excited.

SPEAKER_00 0:33

Sure. Well, we're only, and we're in Ohio, so we're only excited that maybe we'll have the majority of the days be over 50 degrees. We're hoping. This is true. But we're not. We're not. We will we'll try not to be disappointed when that doesn't happen.

KERRY 0:49

Yeah, maybe by June, July, August. Yeah. So well, we were hanging out. We were hanging out an hour ago. So here it goes. Here.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

Oh, I gotta work on my tan. I am still I've constantly just been freaking out about the level of Casper legs I have. They're so white. It's so scary. Oh it's so scary. I what? What?

SPEAKER_02 1:21

Carrie, for the first time in how long we've been together? 35 years, including our courting time before we got married. She her lay her legs are whiter than mine. It's it's beautiful. It's beautiful.

KERRY 1:40

Jim was just saying we were down at the pool and Jim's like, I don't think I'm I don't think I'm getting tan. I'm like, oh honey, yes, you are. Like the farmer's tan is almost gone from living in Ohio. So but the reason that's I guess the reason why I'm so happy in May is these first two weeks of May, there's so many exciting things happening. And most

Cinco De Mama And Memories

KERRY 2:04

importantly it's Cinco de Mayo, which I oh I didn't think you were gonna say that was the most important thing. I listen why, because you know, last year I lost my mom and we buried her on Cinco de Mayo. It just happened to be May 5th. So now Cinco de Mayo to me is always Cinco de mama. So we'll be celebrating, you know, mom. And then there's those other things, you know, my birthday stuff, which you know, don't remember people, don't forget.

SPEAKER_00 2:40

Oh yeah, I don't know. Your birthday. Yeah, gosh, don't. I had to I like question myself, which I said it right in my head. I said the date. I'm not gonna say here because we're gonna cover it, but I was like, okay, it's this date.

SPEAKER_02 2:56

I told you it's the same as my sisters. All right. I told you that. It's easy. My one sister is the same day as yours. She's exactly four years older than you.

SPEAKER_00 3:06

So it's not about her, Nick. Then I double went back. No, it's yeah. It's the one time I'm gonna pull a Chrissy. I had to go back on my phone and I went through all my texts from to just you, because it wasn't part of our group text, and I scanned, scroll down, I'm like, please confirm my date. Please confirm my date because I don't want to get into trouble. And then I found my message to you on that date, and I was like, Oh my god, though.

unknown 3:35

I had it.

KERRY 3:36

You mean I'm not automatically in your contacts with my birth date, so it automatically just shows up on that day every year?

SPEAKER_00 3:43

Probably, yeah. No, I'm sure it is programmed with my contact information, but it's not coming up. I'm sorry, I see ask it to remind me 30 days in advance or anything.

SPEAKER_02 3:55

Or even five days in advance.

SPEAKER_00 3:57

Yeah, I know you can ask it to like just put a reminder out and schedule it to like remind me of this this early, but uh yeah, no, it's a it's a little too early yet.

KERRY 4:06

So you guys didn't you didn't partake in any cervezas and salsa and margaritas and everything yesterday for Cinco de Mama de Mayo.

SPEAKER_00 4:17

No, I have enough events and holiday type things that I have to overthink, over stress, and then become horribly disappointed at the end of it. That I I think I'm pretty reasonable with this one. And I love all these things that you just named. I'm not crapping on that. But the total like stress of having to try and make the perfect day with the perfect menu and make sure you have the margaritas and make sure, you know, you just celebrate, you know, just having a great time. I'm I'm certainly not one to like dress up for anything at all. So I don't know what you know. I know they wear beads for Mardi Grand. St. Patrick Day are supposed to wear green and blah blah, but you know, so but you know, making you know, inspired cuisine is but everybody's doing it. So I figure why participate in that? I like it any day. It doesn't have to be just that day.

KERRY 5:17

Breakfast, lunch, and dinner Mexican food. I love it. So that's one of the best things I love about golden the Caribbean is you can have not that it's all it's not that it's Mexican food, but it's more of that, you know, beans and rice and tortillas and variations of, and you can, you know, go up to the buffet bar or whatever, omelette bar and say, Can you just make me a quesadilla with cheese and egg? And they'll be like, of course.

SPEAKER_00 5:47

So I don't know what you're talking about. I've never experienced any of this. Where I can go up anywhere and say, Can you make this for me? And somebody usually I get the what do I look like to you? Get the hell out of here. That's what I usually get. So uh I go back and sit down. So, well, so yeah, so it was say good to mama and I say good to mama. And just first thing I was gonna ask is how's everybody feeling this morning?

SPEAKER_03 6:20

Good.

SPEAKER_00 6:20

Because just like everything else, everybody likes to overdo it. Especially for this one. I'm sorry. Hangover, no stomach aims.

KERRY 6:32

Because I regret to partake in the Mexican food, and because margarita ingredients are a standard stock in our health. I don't wait for just May 5th to celebrate in that. So I'm good. You might want to be more worried on some like other holiday when I'm not on my you know regular regime.

Finding Real Mexican Food

SPEAKER_00 6:58

So say when you were still living in in Nevada, in Las Vegas, that had to be pretty crazy for Cinco Dumaya, I would say.

KERRY 7:10

Well, if you went to the Mexican I know you mentioned like New Year's was kind of crazy. That was the worst. But honestly, for us, because we would usually just find some really great, authentic Mexican restaurant to go to, but we didn't go down like on the strip or whatever, so I don't really know what it was like there, but we would always just go to our favorite hole in the wall Mexican place, and of course, it's always it's a party every day, it doesn't matter, but especially on Cinco de Mayo for them. So yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

So, and what was so nothing real crazy, just you went to a yeah, we've got this really restaurant. Was it the same thing in Ohio when you were in there?

KERRY 7:54

In Ohio half the time, I had to do it my own because sorry, there's not a lot of good Mexican food in Ohio. So I would make my own, we'd have our own at the farm. So, but here that was one reason we were so excited to get back out west was to get really good, authentic Mexican food. And we found this awesome place here. It's like five miles from the house. Yeah, we're loving it. So great margaritas, great chips and salsa, really good shrimp type things on the menu because you know, we're all about the like the Baja shrimp. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:31

So I guess I'm just gonna assume that what I eat in Ohio is passable. You got you got taco, but it seems authentic when you walk up and taco.

KERRY 8:39

That says it right there.

SPEAKER_00 8:42

I seen her recall going to a place with you a couple times that you like sort of that was a good thing.

KERRY 8:46

Oh, yeah, that was I you are correct. But we had to try, but my point is we had to travel an hour and a half to go to tacos and tequila in Ashland, Ohio. So if you do well, it was just a little and you want a good Mexican restaurant, authentic, go to Tacos and Tequila in Ashland. They were excellent. But my point was we had to drive an hour and a half to find a good one. You know, here I've got one, you know, six minutes down the road.

SPEAKER_00 9:17

Okay. We were just uh he keep running into a wall with our uh we have nothing to offer as far as this goes. Yeah, that tacos in tequila was only about nothing. Yeah, it was closer for 30 minutes for us. Yeah, about a half hour. Well, what's funny is the sister restaurant right in Worcester. When you were here, we should have gone. Al Campesino.

KERRY 9:42

I now but see, I bet you it's not too late, even though tomorrow was yesterday. You could probably go there all week and they're starting, they're probably still celebrating. They probably haven't shut the doors yet from from yesterday.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

Probably it's always we've been there and we have some neighbors who like to frequent once a week generally, but not always. But they like the food, they like to have the nice drinks that they have, and sometimes we stop by and see if they're hanging out and if they oh no, it's always like you said, it's always a party. Love it, yeah. They always look yeah, they always look like they're ready to go. So, yeah, so I guess pretty much everybody uh celebrated, maybe had Mexican cuisine, uh had some margaritas or whatever. What's the other Cervesas? Mexican cervezas, which is beer, modelo. Cerveza. What's a what's the difference? Oh, that's a beer. Cerveza means beer. Cerveza is like it means beer.

KERRY 10:41

Modelo is a brand of beer that's Mexican, modelo. Have you guys seen that?

SPEAKER_00 10:50

What about the one you stick the lina? That's cerveza, correct? That's what we have. In fact, I almost then we and then we didn't say that anymore because we everybody didn't want to say it because it was named together with the other.

KERRY 11:03

I almost thought about drinking one while we were like having one here instead of sipping my water and stuff. I was like, oh, I maybe I should bring my one of my coronas in here.

SPEAKER_00 11:16

No, because if anybody celebrated too much yesterday and then they see that, they might get like sick because they probably drink too many of them the day before. So maybe it's better we didn't do that. Um now we're on to the next holiday.

How Cinco De Mayo Got Big

SPEAKER_00 11:31

So well, real quick, I just want to say because I didn't remember this being a big deal when we were in high school, or when we were younger at all. See, go to Mayo. So I did have Nick check just real quick and tell me when did this become popular? Because we never know. We always need to find out when the hell did this happen? Because it's like you woke up one day and all of a sudden it was a thing.

SPEAKER_02 11:49

But he said through his uh quick little Yeah, it was in the 1980s when it became widely correct. Now, you know, I what it really is, it was one year after the Battle of Puebla, which was in 1862. So in 1863 is when it became a holiday.

SPEAKER_00 12:07

And it took 120 years for us to start doing something. We're real quick on the uptake, huh?

SPEAKER_02 12:15

Well, it was it was it was celebrated in 1863, probably on the West Coast, because the Battle of Puebla had to do with Mexican independence from France. So a lot of it was in California's southern border states as a way to support Mexico's fight against freedom, against the And then it got some it got some momentum during the civil rights um as part of uh you know, as part of what was referred to as the Chicano civil rights movement in the 60s and 70s, focusing on culture cultural pride and education and social justice for the the population. And then in the 80s, we took it and made it a huge party and an excuse too much and I'm sure there was probably some commercial marketing involved.

KERRY 13:01

Like, was that when Corona became a popular beer? Was there a bud was there a Super Bowl commercial about you know Mexican beer or or nachos or something that you know, tortilla chips that they they hooked on to this Cinco de Mayo, and that's what made it commercialized.

SPEAKER_00 13:22

Well, I'm just gonna say this and then we can move on to the next holiday, but no, it was the alcohol companies.

SPEAKER_02 13:27

There you go.

SPEAKER_00 13:32

What was big in the 80s? It's it started in the late 70s, but really hit it was at its peak in the 80s, and I participated heavily in going and they did a lot of advertising. Of course, they're gonna celebrate. I know we still can't get over cheating.

KERRY 13:53

We gotta find out what the status is of that coming back.

SPEAKER_00 13:56

I know they've talked about it and stuff, but like I think they opened um you might actually be closer to where it's at. Because it was what do you quote what are you saying no for?

SPEAKER_02 14:11

I thought it was Midwest, like Minnesota or something like that.

SPEAKER_00 14:15

Cheese. But didn't cheat cheese start in Colorado? No? At any rate.

SPEAKER_02 14:25

At any rate, you know, I I we should be you know, supporting the patronizing authentic Mexican restaurants for Cinco de Mayo. Rather than those, you know, because are we we're trying to tie this into the theme of the show is Minnesota?

KERRY 14:42

Correct, Minnesota. Yeah, I don't know. The first nude feeling which you're closer to Minnesota than I am is expected to open in Minnesota.

SPEAKER_00 14:55

Anyways, okay, so I am moving on. All right, moving on. What's

Mother’s Day Food Expectations

SPEAKER_00 15:01

next? Next over the next week or what are we coming?

KERRY 15:04

Uh Mother's Day. Two Sundays from now. No, next Sunday. This coming Sunday. It is this coming Sunday. Yeah. No, it's coming, coming Sunday.

SPEAKER_00 15:15

It is this Sunday. Mother's Day. So don't need it. Yeah, so I don't take it to that much to heart as far as that I have, you know, I think Nick tries to make sure I have a nice day, but the food thing's always an issue because you don't want anybody to have to do anything, the the the mom or whatever. But they and I know that a lot of places try to have food that you can get easily to serve your family so mom doesn't have to cook, but a lot of times that can be a little disappointing.

SPEAKER_02 15:46

Yeah, and I unfortunately I I have no cooking skill whatsoever. So we and I r and I really don't want her to order. And so a lot of times, or you I I I don't want you to have to cook, so I usually will order something, is what I meant to say.

SPEAKER_00 16:05

I'm just enjoying good breakfast that day. We don't have to worry about nothing else. If you can get a good breakfast, then I'm happy. And usually you can get a good breakfast anyway. I'm not that disappointed in getting a flipping McMuffin and a good coffee at McDonald's. I don't care. Sweet. That's how old I am now. It's like totally wrecked. I don't need to have eggs, Benedict. Yeah. So I mean maybe maybe we can go maybe do the Bob Evans thing if we could just raise the bar a little bit.

SPEAKER_02 16:31

Uh but the golden M is gonna stand for mom on that day.

SPEAKER_00 16:37

Thank you. So but I I know that last year you had a that was a lot for you for Mother's Day. But you know, you're sure it's looking up. Now you're closer to Yeah, because as you say, you're closer to family that you can maybe get to see that week, you know, this weekend or something.

KERRY 16:59

I have to give a shout out because my peeps, my peeps know me and they're listening, and now I'm accessible because I'm on this side of the country. So I have to give a shout out to my sister-in-law, Kitty, and my bestie Dawn, because we're actually going up to Salt Lake this weekend to be up there, visit with them, celebrate my birthday, you know, because I always like to run away on my birthday. I have to get away. So I didn't want to just be here in St. George as much as I love it here. So we said, well, let's go up north and we'll go um hang out. And so once we told them, hey, we're gonna come up for the weekend, the next phone call I get like a couple days later, is from the two of them, Don and Kitty. And they're like, We have your birthday and everything planned. We have your weekend is planned, and then my Sunday morning is Mother's Day, so there's a Mother's Day uh section of the birthday weekend for all of us, you know. So, oh yeah, they've they've got facials scheduled at the mint facial. They've got um, you know, we're going horseback riding, we're going to the aquarium. Husbands and spouses are making breakfast and beds for us on on Mother's Day. We got barbecues uh scheduled. I mean, with it, they they have it packed. So I am super excited for my birthday this year, which is something I rarely say, but thank you to my peeps for listening to me. And uh yeah, so I'm looking forward to it. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:38

Well, it's uh common.

KERRY 18:39

It always is.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

You can't get away from that. Mother's Day slash Carrie's buttons. Always was.

KERRY 18:45

But uh, you know, but again, we were having a hard time because like we were talking about like going out to eat or whatever, and it's that stupid restricted menu, or you can't get a reservation in. Like, there were two places I thought about before I knew that uh Kitty and Dawn had planned, you know, the birthday extravaganza. Um, that I was thinking, like, oh, we should go to you know, one of these two places that are up in Salt Lake. Couldn't get a reservation if we tried, because it's packed with everyone for Mother's Day. And then when I was looking at the menus, I'm like, I wouldn't want to go anyways because limited menu. So hate that. Hate that. We talked about that last year. Well, listen, like listen to last year's episode.

SPEAKER_00 19:26

We talked about that, so but yeah, so yes, we don't like to be told that you can only pick these two or three items for an appetizer or for a main course. I want what I want, whatever.

SPEAKER_02 19:39

So it's the Valentine, the the Valentine's Day is worse for that, usually.

SPEAKER_00 19:44

It's equally as bad. Memory for me. I think probably as far as going out, I don't know which one of those two is the most as far as r restaurant business goes, but they have to be pretty close as far as I'm gonna go.

KERRY 20:02

I think I would rather stay to a Valentine's weekend dinner at a restaurant than a Mother's Day weekend. I had to pick the two, they're equally bad.

SPEAKER_02 20:14

All I know, all I know is I just need to know how many egg McMahon's.

KERRY 20:20

No, no, the bar's been raised. She already said I should have never said Bob Evans. So you Mickey, Mickey D's is out. Sorry, Nick. Bob Evans.

SPEAKER_00 20:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:32

Yeah, we might need to that don't matter to me because I'm I went to McDonald's drive-thru the other day. It was almost I probably would almost spend as much there as I do with Bob Evans. So everything's expensive.

SPEAKER_00 20:46

So well then, yes, we covered your birthday and we were gonna talk about your birthday, but you kind of covered so you got the plan set, so that's good.

KERRY 20:52

So

Listener Gratitude Around The World

KERRY 20:53

yes, but hey, we have some other things to chat about because we have some things to be thankful for. So Chrissy and I have decided that we're going to start doing some thankful blurbs every episode instead of just one dedicated episode. So uh Chrissy, what are we thankful for?

unknown 21:14

What are we thankful for?

SPEAKER_00 21:16

We have some new uh areas to be some new countries, new cities. Uh so we have some pretty exotic, pretty exciting places. We have Egypt, Guyana, Honduras, and oh god, I wrote it down phonetically, and I still am gonna mess it up. Help me with the I can't read my writings, I scribbled it.

KERRY 21:41

Kergus.

SPEAKER_00 21:42

What was that one again? Kergas. Thank you. Thank you. Sorry, Kyrgyzstan. I it's me. I have a hard time saying a lot of different things. And then independence, Ohio. If we're coming back towards this way for a new city, and we uh Exciting. Berlin and Bangkok.

KERRY 22:05

So when I saw that, I couldn't start singing that song in my head. What not in Bangkok?

SPEAKER_00 22:12

That tells you exactly how old we are about how old we are.

SPEAKER_02 22:17

But some of the all I know is Carrie, Carrie, come come Monday. Carrie's gonna be my age. That's all I know.

SPEAKER_00 22:25

Jim is just enjoying the whole idea of her birthday and you had to do that.

KERRY 22:30

Well, some of the other countries that we've had, uh, we've had Ukraine, which I was really excited about because I really that little country I feel so bad for, and I've always been a big supporter. I love to buy things on Etsy, and I found things on Etsy from Ukrainian people that were selling and I buy from them. So when I saw Ukraine pop up, I was super excited. Ukraine, Turkey. Speaking of Cinco de Mayo, Mexico finally came up on our list.

SPEAKER_00 23:03

Oh my gosh, you're right. They did. Yes, they did. I do remember that. Ethiopia also, yeah.

KERRY 23:13

We went from we are now in 73 countries, which again just so grateful, so thankful to all of our listeners, everyone who's sharing with their friends, spreading the word, and so grateful, grateful, grateful about that. I also wanted to be thankful for.

Functional Wellness Doctor Advice

KERRY 23:35

Let me look up my notes here. I went and saw a new doctor. I can't remember if I talked about this on the last episode. I know I think we talked about it, but I don't think I talked about it on the air. But I went to a functional wellness doctor and you were talking about you were gonna be going. Well, I haven't discussed and I'm in love with this new doctor, still waiting for blood results and things. So I will keep you posted on that. But I'm telling you, as a woman in her 50s, ladies, if you don't feel like you're being heard by your doctors, and you know, you see all this stuff about cortisone levels and hormone changes and everything, find yourself a good functional wellness doctor in your area. It is, I'm telling you, I'm already can tell it's gonna be life-changing. So, to the doctors over at Desert Bloom um here in St. George, Utah, looking forward to having you in my life. So very thankful about that. So you got anything else, Chrissy, for thankful. Thankful to be here.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

I love it. Yes, I'm thankful to everybody who wants to share some laughs with us for the little bit of time we try to bring you something fun to think about for once a week. So we we're appreciative of anybody who's gonna come out

Lupus Awareness Month And Resources

SPEAKER_00 24:59

for us.

KERRY 24:59

And then the other thing we do want to talk briefly about is this is May in the month of May, and we are with our Junkies Care Initiative, we are raising awareness for lupus. So, as I've talked about before, I'm a lupus lawyer, you know, was diagnosed about like eight years ago. But honestly, I've probably had lupus since uh early childhood, which I've learned, been learning a lot. Wait a minute, can you really have it that long without it being detected? For sure, but I suspected it all these years. And in my research and learning from Lupus Awareness Month this month and going to lupus.org and the lupus foundation of America, I was going through their website and taking quizzes on there and just to learn more about the disease that I actually have. And it says that there are about 10 to 20 percent of people that are diagnosed with lupus that actually develop it as a child. And when I went to my functional wellness doctor, and we were going through my history and talking about things, and we were talking about some of the different symptoms and things, I was like, I think I've had this, I think this has been since I was a child. And she goes, I have no doubt that you probably have, given my history, my symptoms, when we track things. So for me, one of the things that we always joke about, I mean, joked about it in my family, but not that it was funny, but it was just, you know, didn't know, was my my mom always would say my thermostats broke. So everyone would be hot, I would be cold. Everyone would be cold, I would be hot, or I would be hot and cold, which is like the craziest thing. Like I will feel hot inside, but outside is cold. So like I want to wear a sweater or something because I feel cold, but I'm burning up inside. It's it's a very odd feeling.

SPEAKER_00 26:48

I don't really know how to describe it, but it sounds, I mean, I kind of get it, but it sounds like probably you have to really experience it to understand what exactly.

KERRY 26:58

So my mom always said from when I was, I mean, I really think that from like around maybe 12 that it really started developing like that. It like that was one of the one of the things. And um, and so she would always say, My thermostat's broke. And so even Jim and I talk about it because he'll be cold, I'll be hot, and all he'll be like, Oh, your thermostat's broke, you know. So, so, anyways, but through these, through going through the lupus.org website and um learning information from the lupus uh foundation of America, I was reading that, and when I came across that about 10 to 20 percent can uh develop as a child, I was like, that's me, no doubt about it. And then my doctor was like kind of, yeah, I wouldn't doubt it as well. So, so, anyways, we are supporting lupus awareness month. If you don't know a lot about lupus, I highly encourage you to go check out their website. If you know somebody who has lupus, wear purple this month to bring awareness to lupus. And you can go to lupus.org to learn more about it. Um, and sometimes they have community events during the month of May, so you can go to the website and see if there's uh an event near you to learn more.

SPEAKER_03 28:11

Yep.

KERRY 28:11

Perfect. Well, wonderful. All right, yeah, good information.

Mother’s Day Wishes And Goodbye

KERRY 28:16

Happy Mother's Day to everybody, Chrissy, to you and your beautiful family. Happy Mother's Day. And uh I guess we'll see you all next week.

SPEAKER_00 28:28

Happy birthday to Carrie. No, it's not your birthday yet. Oh, sorry, we can't celebrate yet. Are you picking that up for me?

KERRY 28:40

Poor thing. All right, everybody. Bye. Bye.