Throwback: Birthdays and Mother's Father's Day

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHRISY!  We are throwing it back to Season 1 Episode 29 where we share how Chrisy and Kerry's Birthdays tend to overlap with Father's Day and Mother's Day.  Be sure to tune in don't forget to give Chrisy a shout out on our Facebook page to wish her a Happy Birthday!

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Transcript

Welcome And Birthday Timing

SPEAKER_00 0:07

Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies Podcast. We may not have seen it all, but we've seen enough. And now, here are your hosts, Chrissy and Carrie.

KERRY 0:21

Hello, Junkies. I'm Carrie. And I'm Chrissy. Well, today we thought we'd talk about another great family time of togetherness. Birthdays. Yay. Yay. So my birthday is in May. Chrissy's birthday is in June. And each of our birthdays respectively fall very close to Mother's Day and Father's Day. So it just seemed only fitting that this would be a great time to talk about the birthday events. Yes. Chrissy, go.

unknown 0:53

Chrissy go.

CHRISY 0:55

Uh yes. My birthday is uh in June. I love a birthday in June. I love it. And here's why. Christmas was six months ago. Yes. Now I got a birthday. So I'm getting hit great with gifts twice a year. And it's enough to be able to like basically, you know, reflect on what you got at Christmas so that you know what you need to ask for, demand for for your birthday. So that time period, I mean, I just I think it's perfect, my opinion only.

KERRY 1:25

I agree. I always do feel bad for people whose birthdays are at Christmas time. Like, I I do. I feel bad. My dad's birthday was like a couple days before Christmas. And I always did, I was like, Oh, that's kind of sad. Like, how do you how do you differentiate that?

CHRISY 1:38

So But I bet those people who do have birthdays close to Christmas, I I could see where there might be some. Just imagine your birthday is celebrated with so many lights and decorations. And I mean, it's wonderful. You can sort of almost go out and say, look, look what's for me. I mean, you know.

KERRY 1:55

Yeah, but then you're gonna get people that are gonna go, Well, I'm gonna give you one one gift that's your Christmas and your birthday gift or something.

CHRISY 2:01

You're gonna combine it. Well, if it was me, I'd have to really analyze. And I'd have to say, Okay, now if it was just Christmas we were celebrating and you got me this. I mean, uh it's gonna have to really be judged on my opinion. Uh that you did make up for the fact that we're sharing two types of big events for me in the same slot, you know.

How Our Families Did Birthdays

KERRY 2:22

How did your family handle birthdays? Were they a big deal?

CHRISY 2:25

No, no, not really. I mean, uh uh when I was little I had birthday parties. Uh but to be honest, I really don't remember birthday parties with like family real well. Yeah. There's some photography, uh photographic evidence of this. I don't really recall these birthday parties where I had aunts and maybe uh a cousin, uh cousins there. But I think that pretty much ended probably when I was probably even before I was 10. Yeah. I think some of it had to do with the passing of my grandmother to some extent. She there's like that one family, usually a grandparent, right, who really ties those two sides of the family together. Gotcha. Yeah. You're you the siblings, you know, your your parents' uh siblings and cousins. And sort of once that piece falls out of the puzzle, right, things become brittle. It's not like we were on bad terms.

KERRY 3:17

No, but that was the glue.

CHRISY 3:19

It's it early on after somebody passes away like that, uh, it's hard to get together because then there's that missing spot. Right, right. And then after you sort of follow that thing, it's hard to sort of get rolling again. So this isn't anything that makes me hostile or anything. It just it was what it was. My birthday being in the summer, uh, yours also uh right on the brink of summer, I guess. Yeah, spring, summer. When we had a swimming pool, uh my parents pretty much left it up to me to organize and do my own birthday. And generally that meant just having friends around.

KERRY 3:54

Oh, okay. Yeah, our family, we and and I think this is where I get it from. I like to make a big deal out of people's birthdays. And I think because definitely in the early years, my mom always made a big deal out of our birthdays. So we always it was always something special. First of all, we always got to pick where we wanted to go eat because we didn't get to go out to eat much. Now, granted, for the longest time, that might have just been McDonald's.

CHRISY 4:17

That was a big deal.

KERRY 4:18

That was a big deal for us, you know. We would have parties, you know, like the kids' parties and everything. And then it started falling apart, like where it wasn't such a big deal when I started getting into high school. I you know, I think my mom and dad, there's definitely something changed. They were on different paths. I don't I don't know. It was like there was just me left at home and they were both working, and I don't know, it was just all my sisters were moved out away, so it was a little different. Birthdays were kind of a big deal, and so I definitely like to make a big deal out of people's birthdays.

Celebrate On The Actual Day

KERRY 4:47

My thing is you celebrate somebody's birthday on the birthday, like on the day. So, like this, oh, your birthday's on Thursday. We're gonna take you out for dinner on Saturday. No, Thursday is the birthday, you celebrate it on the birthday, like that's kind of your strip. Well, that's the day. Now I'm all for making it a week-long celebration. Like, don't get me wrong on that. Like, you can continue the celebration, but there has to be something on the birthday.

CHRISY 5:14

Well, I I do believe that on the date of the birth of uh the person, you have to have a cake. Yes, and you have cake with a candle, something with fire shooting off the top of it that you have to put out with your breath.

KERRY 5:34

Yes. That is required on your birthday. Right. And that's what I mean. I'm totally fine if we do the cake and stuff on the birthday, but we're gonna maybe live it up on the weekend because whatever it's easy. I I'm you 100% with you on that. But there has to be acknowledgement and celebration of some sort on the day of the birthday.

CHRISY 5:53

I just

No Parties Before The Birthday

CHRISY 5:54

remembered something, and I didn't prep for this thought before this show. The look on your face right now. So I have, and this has created some problems in the dynamics of family and other kids getting older, now having their own families, like with nieces and nephews, and they're having kids. And now we have even more birthdays. Like my side is really just not involved in this because I don't have a big family, and Nick he does have many sisters that he is in communication with all the time, which is great. And uh I have a superstition. Here's another one. Uh-oh. Sometimes I think my mind, because I was exposed to so many baloney superstitions, I I create new ones for myself, and I don't even know that anybody ever told me this or why I think this. I can't celebrate my kids' birthdays prior to their birthday. Oh, okay. For some reason to me, that is bad. It's almost like you're f you're exposing yourself saying, Yes, I definitely this is dark, man. Oh god. We're getting dark right now. I feel like if you're like, Yes, my birthday is not until next week, it's convenient for everybody to celebrate again. And then I I drop dead because I said, Well, I already celebrated my birthday. So, like fate or the gods or whoever controls karma says, Well, you already celebrated your birthday. This is a good time to strike you down dead. Oh. So you don't celebrate anything prior to it. My goal always is to make it to that birth event.

KERRY 7:25

Okay. Birthdays, anniversaries. So if you were gonna throw your kids a birthday party, then you would in you need to do it on a weekend for convenience, you would do it the weekend after, not the weekend before. So even if their birthday was Monday, you wouldn't have the birthday the Sunday before. It would have it would have to be. Oh, that could I could I can respect that. I can totally respect that.

CHRISY 7:46

And you know, if their birthday happens to fall on the weekend, bonus, yeah, but no, it either has to be their birthday, yeah, actually, or the the time afterwards. Okay. No celebrating prior.

KERRY 7:59

None. There's I I have no problems with that. That to me makes total sense. And again, you're acknowledging on the birthday something. So you're you're having the cake or something, even if it's just you guys, your you know, intimate family on that day. Right.

CHRISY 8:14

And it usually is just the cloth, you know, mom with my kids, it's just us. Yeah, you know, but the no, yeah, you have to.

KERRY 8:21

I have such

Forgotten Birthdays And Real Anxiety

KERRY 8:22

a juxtaposition about birthdays because as much as I love them and I want to make a big deal out of them, and I do make a big deal out of other people's birthdays and everything, there is a part of me that has huge anxiety about my birthday.

CHRISY 8:37

Now, why is that?

KERRY 8:38

I think it's because it was forgotten one too many times by people.

CHRISY 8:42

Oh my god, you're like the opening of 16 candles. You mean people actually flip and forgot your birthday? Yes. Parents?

KERRY 8:49

Yes.

CHRISY 8:49

Oh my Carrie, Jesus God, this is terrible. And Carrie, go. Okay, I want to hear it.

KERRY 8:56

Well, it's I should say it's maybe not so much that they forgot, but it got overshadowed because of Mother's Day. So many times my birthday falls on the exact same day as Mother's Day.

CHRISY 9:11

As mine does with Father's Day.

KERRY 9:13

Gonna happen this year.

CHRISY 9:14

Oh, is it?

KERRY 9:14

It's gonna happen this year. So what happens is you're you know, what would happen is they would, oh, like the Christmas birthdays and the Christmas thing, put it all together. Oh, but we'll just do one. We'll celebrate Mother's Day and Carrie's birthday all at the same time. And then it gets overshadowed. And then as you get older, you know, again, big age gap in the family from me and the siblings, and then it was just, you know, us at home, or oh, we had Mother's Day. Oh, yeah, I forgot that Carrie's birthday is the next day. There would be like this No mention of you, yeah. Or the in or it would be a last minute, like all of a sudden at bedtime. Oh my gosh, we forgot it was your birthday. I thought it was whatever yeah. And sorry, Jim. Gonna call you out on this one.

CHRISY 10:01

No, no, no, Carrie.

KERRY 10:03

Yeah, don't eat. But it was in his defense, I think it was the very first year we were together. But we had been together for almost a year by the time my birthday rolled around, and he he didn't he forgot those papers. And so that just already having those, you know, like I don't know, how do you say birthday abandonment issues? So I get this anxiety because it's like, and then as I've gotten older, I feel like I would have to plan my own event.

CHRISY 10:37

Okay.

KERRY 10:37

I get this anxiety of like, see, oh my god, did you just see me? I just took a DPS.

CHRISY 10:42

You're having some reaction.

KERRY 10:45

So it's like, your face is red. I know my god. I know. This is what I'm saying. I want to celebrate it and I want to be celebrated, but I'm afraid people won't celebrate it or they'll forget. My response to that is then I will plan my own getaway. And we will often go away because I feel like if I leave, then if people forget or they don't do anything or don't reach out, it's okay because I wasn't available. So I'm giving, you know, I'm creating a pass for people. I know it's it's so dysfunctional.

CHRISY 11:15

Yeah, that's uh I know a lot of trouble to go through to accommodate other people's uh shortcomings to protect myself.

KERRY 11:21

But yeah. So for my 50th birthday a few years ago, it was like months before my 50th birthday, I started having this huge anxiety about my birthday. And it wasn't about turning 50, but it was the fact that it was my 50th birthday. And I was so afraid that I'm like, okay, what if this is another year where it's forgotten or underplayed or not played or whatever? And that's almost as bad too when the people celebrate your birthday because they feel they have to, like it's an obligation. Like to me, it's just as bad. I know I'm so I'm so messed up about this. So what I did was I went to the gym and I said, I'm just gonna ask you now. And the answer is completely okay. I said, Have you given any thought about what you're going to do in three months for my 50th birthday? And he kind of looked at me like there was no right answer for him. So he was like, I'm gonna be completely honest. No, I have not given a thought. And I'm like, that's okay, I got it. And I planned this big trip to Jamaica. We we went to Jamaica and I said, I you're I'm okay with that. You didn't plan anything because it is still three months away. I'm saving you and I'm saving me. So we planned a trip and then our friends went with us too. But I will often escape on my birthday, and it's purely a defense taconism. Yeah.

CHRISY 12:35

Wow. No, talk about dysfunction. Is that not dysfunctional? Well, yeah, yeah. So it in the same uh token is what you dealt with as far as celebrating generally Mother's Day with your birthday uh on certain years, um, when it fell that way. But it's so weird because as much attention as my father generally demanded, yeah, and maybe I was just sort of the same, I also demanded as much. And they sort of canceled each other out. The apple didn't fall far from the uh remembering back then, I don't remember really feeling shorted or uh underplayed or because I think early on it was basically just my understanding that you know, yes, you can invite over whoever you want, how many people you want, and go swimming. And uh I would usually request what I wanted there, uh generally pizza or we ordering something. And I would generally tell them what I wanted as far as a cake and that was provided. And so it was sort of like just to keep but you planned your own stuff though. Well, I guess I kind of did. Again, it was pretty much like that whole thing where I talk about where they just basically just give her whatever and then we don't pay attention anymore. Yeah, and it was easy for them just to say, Yes, uh you got friends here. That means I don't need to focus on you for anything. I got food here for you, you're not gonna be going without. And we'll supply foods for your friends, snacks, drinks, whatever. Cake, yeah, I'll get you a beautiful cake. It'll be here ready to go. Ice cream, whatever. Okay, and then yeah, I generally don't even remember them being home. Wow. Really, I probably should have taken more advantage as I got old. I did actually. You know, things got a little crazy later on. And again, they were the perfect parents for me. Yeah. Because I have no hostility that I know of for that, you know?

KERRY 14:30

Yeah. I I can't say I have hostility, it but it it manifests itself in anxiety.

CHRISY 14:36

There's something going on. There's something because I definitely can see the physical reaction, right? That that was physical. Uh I thought you were gonna maybe turn into like a transformer. You were really upset. I was gonna start crying. Or turn green. I don't know.

Parenting Yourself And Self Protection

KERRY 14:52

I think it, I think it really stems from this whole thing of, you know, uh I grew, you know how I don't know if you've heard this, the phrase about the parent, parentize child. I think that's how they say it, parentized child. It's basically where, you know, the child grows up taking care of them themselves or their parents. And I feel like in a lot of ways that was me because, you know, again, I remember first, second grade, I would get up for school on my own. I'd have to iron my own uniform, I'd have to pack my own lunch, I would wake my mom up so she would watch me go out the door. And so she was watching me at the end of the driveway to make sure no one stole me while I was waiting for the bus at the end of the driveway. But I did all of that. I then come home from school, no but no parent home. So I was taking care. So I grew up with this having to take care of myself in a lot of ways, and also therefore was not protected. You know, we talked about before different abuse and things that happened. I wasn't protected. It's I think it's kind of all of that stems together. And here you have this great occasion, and then to be forgotten about or the sideshow again, it just creates all of this totally dysfunction around one silly day of the year. So I am a hot mess in the beginning of May around my birthday. And the other thing that gets me is I know people that know this about me will try to protect me. So they'll want to think they're doing a good thing by okay, I know you really want this particular person to remember it's your birthday today. People will try to remind that person. And I'm always like, I'm on to it. I know it's like, don't you tell them to remind them about my birthday? Like, I know I let them hurt me and forget. I would rather have that than you remind them, and then I get the call because they have to, you know, I mean, you know, you're looking at me with such good.

CHRISY 16:35

No, I I to be honest, what I'm thinking right now is I better god damn make sure I have my birthday on my calendar. I'm gonna put poster up in my room. I'm gonna have my phone go off all day because I knew I always remember it being in May, and I know it uh no, I feel I don't even want to tell you the date.

KERRY 16:56

I I know when it is. That's it. I'm just gonna You can say the date because I already said this year it's gonna happen on Mother's Day, so but I don't know when Mother's Day is.

CHRISY 17:05

Do you think that I'm that in tune to that? Then I gotta deal a parent. Come on. Is it the 14th? No. I didn't say that. I didn't it didn't come out all the way. It was more of a noise in the back of my throat. It's in the middle of the month. Before the middle. Oh, it's I'm totally letting you No the 11th. Yes. Oh my god. What am I just writing on my paper? Huge May 11th. It's the same day as my son. Please don't tell me you know when mine is.

KERRY 17:38

June 17th.

CHRISY 17:39

But everybody knows that date because it's the same day as a Watergate break-in.

KERRY 17:43

I have no idea what that reference is.

CHRISY 17:44

The Watergate. Nixon. I was born on the exact same day as that Watergate break-in.

KERRY 17:50

Oh well, I was I was a month and oh six days old. I yeah, I remember that.

CHRISY 17:55

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Now you're gonna be able to get it. Everybody celebrates Watergate, don't they? No, nobody does anymore. Okay.

KERRY 18:01

You know how I remember though, how now I remember and correlate your birthday, but I knew what your birthday was, is because that's our wedding anniversary.

CHRISY 18:09

There, that's why you remember.

KERRY 18:10

No, but I knew it from before.

CHRISY 18:12

But I'm just saying that's how you planned the day you were getting.

KERRY 18:15

Exactly, because everything revolves around Chrissy.

CHRISY 18:17

See, now I gotta share my birthday with that too. And well, my dad's deceased, so that's that problem was taken out of the equation. But it was never a problem. You know, as you were talking, I think I finally realized what my situation was growing up with my parents.

KERRY 18:32

What?

CHRISY 18:33

And everybody would have wished they were me, which I always felt anyhow. What is that? I basically had the life like I lived in a high-end hotel. Oh, yeah. You take my clothes were washed, yeah, my shirts were ironed for me. My skirt was pressed for me. Yes, my clothes were laid out and purchased for me. My meals were already made and waiting for me. Yes. There was no need for anybody to be there. All my wants and needs were cared for. I had a room that had a VCR, cable, stereo system, all my stupid crap in it. And there was nothing I needed or wanted. No, you didn't. I must have had the best. Here I thought they were lousy parents. I'm gonna have to retire from the podcast now. I had no enlightenment. They were like this enlightenment. Because I never really wanted to have any time with them. Right. I just wanted, I wanted. I'm a child of need. I still am. I'm a big child of need. I want, I want, give me, give me.

KERRY 19:29

Yep.

CHRISY 19:31

But yes. So I am so grateful. Good for you. I am feeling horrible.

KERRY 19:40

So you called called Jeno today and tell her you're too one Mother's Day, you'll be able to say to her that you'll be able to have something to be grateful for. I'll get her a couple extra flowers. Okay, there you go.

SPEAKER_03 19:49

Oh my gosh.

CHRISY 19:51

Wow.

Adult Birthday Bash Culture

CHRISY 19:53

Now, some people though, well, let's talk about these types. What? Unless you were gonna have a No, I had we can go on. I am totally opposed to people as adults having birthday big bashes. Now, for milestone birthdays, I'm not gonna crap on you. Gotcha. But every goddamn year. And if I know again, these people I don't think listen. And I don't care if you do. I'm not shy about this. Yes. I'm 50 years old now. You ain't gonna cause me any heartache. Why do we have to celebrate your birthday every year like you're a child? You mean like sisters? They love their birthday. The one sister, birthday month. She has stuff scheduled every weekend with friends. But people love her. Hey, it speaks volumes about who you are. Yeah. The people love you that much they want to celebrate your birthday. Oh, goddamn month. Congratulations. You've obviously been kind and giving your whole life that these people still want to celebrate you to the flipping limits. Yeah. Not me. I don't care. I'm thrilled that you even knew my birthday. And I'm thrilled that you got married on my birthday. And I love you for it. But I don't, and I get agitated. I'm glad we kind of live far away. They send us the text. We're gonna have so-and-so's birthday celebration at my house. And they usually will send you the menu so you know what you're eating. Oh, well, that's good. And you can't even get away with now. I always like, why don't we go out to a restaurant? We're all adults, like especially before I had kids. Right. No, they have no. Oh you're not allowed. That somebody has to go out of their way to have it at their home, but not the birthday person's home. Because they're not doing anything that day. I like that. They're not cleaning, I like that. They're not gonna clean up after, I like that. They're not making one damn dish. I like that. And then the dip sister has to bring dip, of course. But they have someone has to prep the meal and they're not uh give them credit. They they go all out with a meal. I mean, it's like a holiday.

KERRY 21:54

Can I be part of your family, Nick?

CHRISY 21:56

Oh, they'll love it as long as you're gonna acknowledge their birthday. I mean Don't come empty-handed. As long as they re as long as it's give and take. Oh, that's what I want. Oh, well, yeah. Oh, yeah. Once you get on their schedule, let me think. Is your birthday in uh well they it's close to one of the other siblings? You gotta watch with that. So they have a whole meal, and then I was like, Well, why can't you guys just buy a cake? God damn it, why does somebody have to make a cake? That's such crap. There's so many places you can get a great cake. Oh, it has to be a humming. And it's like usually a banana nut cake. What's wrong with that? I don't know who. Birthday, no banana nut cake. I know you are the winner, blue ribbon winner of banana nut bread, and Nick is on board with that.

KERRY 22:37

But as much as he likes banana nut bread, he don't want a banana nut cake. I don't think he does. Oh, it's not just it's always a banana cake. Not for everybody. Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 22:45

I was gonna say no, they're it's whatever sist what the sister wants. And I was one sister in particular loves banana nut case.

KERRY 22:52

Well then there's nothing wrong with that.

CHRISY 22:54

No, it's their day, but again, I'm thinking so every year it's a big deal. And then one time, a few times this came up, I kind of got mad because they all had their designated months for their birthday and their day that we're gonna celebrate it. Yeah. And then my husband's birthday and his one hi his oldest sister's birthday are close as far as uh not year, of course, because there's like almost 12 years between them, but we're his is in January, hers is in December. Okay. Her she's at the end, he's sort of at the beginning, sort of not so much, but close. Within two to three days. Well, they won't when we would bring it up because two of his other sisters have one in April and one in May. Uh-huh. And they would never combine those.

KERRY 23:40

I I really like your family, Nick.

CHRISY 23:43

But but because we went into the holiday lag for that December-January mix, that sometimes they would say, We're gonna combine, we're gonna tack on Nick's birthday with so-and-so's birthday. Yeah. And I used to be like, look, we just went through all the we used to go through all this trouble with special meals designated for special things, and and you're gonna do this to my husband.

SPEAKER_01 24:03

No, that's that's wrong. They they've been combining the other ones lately.

CHRISY 24:07

Well, because everyone's getting old, man. Nobody wants to do all this crap.

SPEAKER_01 24:11

But you know, I don't want to say too much, but I just want to say this Sunday, have a happy birthday.

KERRY 24:17

Aw, thank you, Nick. Get out of here.

CHRISY 24:20

Go sit over there. I'm gonna buy her something nice.

KERRY 24:23

One time I bought Carrie a Wheel of Fortune watch. She did. I love that watch. It was the best. It was like a swatch watch, but it was Wheel of Fortune. Yeah. And oh, I loved it. I had it for the boyfriend at the time. He did not like it. They brought her something cool. Cooler than he could get me. Well, we're not. I know, because he didn't get you the Wheel of Fortune. Right.

SPEAKER_03 24:47

That's why you and I are sitting here today. This is true.

KERRY 24:51

So,

The Birthday Song Wars

KERRY 24:52

what other traditions do you have? Do you have any special songs or anything other than the traditional birthday song? Do you do anything else where you know how you were talking?

CHRISY 25:00

Oh my god, she brought up the song thing. I'm gonna have to talk about the song thing. Do you have the same song thing? No, it's so is it my family song thing? No, what well, no, you I won't forget this. So you tell us about your song first. You tell you go first. All right. So I am traditional, which is you'd think some of this crazy can't be, but yeah, the the happy birthday song. Yeah. Happy birthday. That's enough. Now, if you happen to be at a restaurant, I know like sometimes if you go to a Mexican restaurant, they sing you their version of Happy Birthday. Awesome. Right. That's fine because you're at a restaurant. Yeah. But when you're at home with family, happy birthday song, traditional. That's it. That is it. One song. Now, next family, because again, they gotta go all out or whatever the hell you want to call it this, they have three goddamn songs they have to sing before you can blow out your candles. And my kids for the longest time were so confused because they know we just sing one song and then you blow. And so they'd be sitting at the table and we would sing the song, and then they start into a new song. So then the kid has to back off the candle. So then after the second song, they're like, Okay, I'm gonna go. No, now there's another song.

KERRY 26:13

Oh, this is great.

CHRISY 26:14

And I'd be like, Oh my god. And it was just so hard because kids are excited, they want to pull out the candles because then generally they're gonna open their present. Yeah, but we gotta go through this whole thing.

SPEAKER_03 26:23

Yeah.

CHRISY 26:23

So generally, you know, uh it's just in rebellion, I would generally not sing the other two songs, even though the words were very simple and I knew them. I'm like, you know what? I'm just I'm I'm rebelling. I'm not singing your songs. You're not singing the song and I ain't eating the dip. I don't even know. I'm not even I'm not explaining dip and I'm not singing three songs. So I did you always have that growing up? I'm just curious. They I think they started all this stuff when I finally got into his life just to be irritating. He doesn't even remember any of this.

KERRY 26:54

DJ Nick, go.

SPEAKER_01 26:56

What's the songs? So the second song is it's basically using the same melody as the happy birthday song, but it's may the dear lord bless you.

KERRY 27:03

Oh, okay, I've heard that.

SPEAKER_01 27:04

Okay, and then then the last song is We wish you a happy birthday.

SPEAKER_03 27:09

A very happy birthday. We wish you a happy birthday, happy birthday to you. And then somebody usually says ole or something afterwards.

CHRISY 27:19

And it's just I would I have no problem with that. Carrie. Okay, it's too mom.

SPEAKER_01 27:26

I think they did they added the you know, maybe Lord bless you, to try to to try to cancel Chrissy's reservation in hell.

CHRISY 27:35

They're sending that's their gift to you. They never sing that to me, you know why? Because I never have a damn birthday party.

KERRY 27:44

So our family, and we do this, and we love everyone really loves it. And when we do it, uh, when there's get togethers and there's not just family and there's out outside people, other people, friends, or whatever, it always catches everyone off guard, but they love it. But the good thing is it's after the candle, so you don't have to wait. So we do the traditional birthday song, right? The person blows out the candle, and when they blow out the candle, we start. So I'll use your name. So today is Chrissy's birthday, birthday, birthday. Today is Chrissy's birthday. We count the years away, and then we clap the years and the age of the person. So one, two, three, four, five, six until you get to their age. So it's great. It gets the kids everything going. Well, it's really funny whenever, like last year, my mom's 85th birthday party, we started this. So it got you couldn't do it by 10. No, we don't do it by 10. You gotta count the years. And usually the funny thing is the longer it is, the older the person is. When you get to the longer numbers, you're like, 77.

CHRISY 28:42

70.

KERRY 28:43

It's like you drag it out.

CHRISY 28:45

It's like that bottles of beer song. It is kind of like that.

KERRY 28:47

Yes, yes. But it's fun and we enjoy it. But it's always I love when we're in a mixed crowd and we do the and we just everyone just starts in because you'll see the people but that don't know, they'll be like, wait, what's happening? What's happening here? And then they, oh, oh, this is fun, and they start clapping and joining in. So yeah, the that is our birthday.

CHRISY 29:05

Okay, so I would be standing there completely off guard now that you're doing this, probably annoyed fairly quickly. Probably. And then I'd have to turn to Nick or somebody and say, Okay, wait, remind me again, how old is this person? What number are we counting? How long am I going to? Because I'm gonna lose like interest real quick and get sidetracked and stop. That's that's kind I'm I'm glad you love it.

KERRY 29:28

So that's why I have no problem with Nick's songs.

CHRISY 29:31

So I guess I should appreciate that because I don't know how I feel about the clapping.

KERRY 29:35

The key though is it's after the blowout of the candles. So you only have the birthday song, the blowout, and then that goes into the next song. So you don't have to wait.

CHRISY 29:43

But if I showed up at the party late and I just got there when you were doing the cake thing, but I haven't eaten yet. Oh. I'm gonna get very hostile because I'm really I'm like, okay, I'm sorry I'm late. I know you guys kinda everybody already ate, but there's still food here for me. Yeah, let's do the cake, and then I want to get over there to eat. Yeah. And now you're doing this, which takes like 10 minutes, and I'm starving, and the food's getting colder, and maybe they're starting to put it away. And I'll be like, put the food away. Once I finish this BS over here, I'm chowing down. So wow. Wow. Congrats on that, I guess. I don't know what to say.

KERRY 30:17

Well, that was fun. Maybe, maybe hopefully this year I won't have so much anxiety about my birthday, but no, I've got to go.

CHRISY 30:26

The week is of anxiety. Because I feel like I'm gonna have to make up for every lousy ass that didn't do what they were supposed to do.

KERRY 30:38

Damn. Oh my. Well,

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KERRY 30:40

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SPEAKER_03 31:08

Thank you.